Women In Transition...Where Change Begins

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Friday, October 31, 2014

Black Leadership, Where Did They Go?

 
By Patricia McKinney & Angela Cox
 
 

Our African American history is filled with a wealth of strong black men and women that suffered mental anguish and distress, and sacrificed their lives to share in the civil rights granted to them by their Creator, God Almighty.  Their mentality expanded outside the four walls of their own immediate families, and they had a greater passion for the well being of their own kind, the black race. But it's sad to say, that when they died, the mentality of leadership died with them, as well as the dream that Martin Luther King fought for.  Many leaders today are filled with self interest and could care less about the well being of their people.  For example, Jesse Jackson and Al Sharpton were around when Martin Luther King marched.  Jesse Jackson was like one of the disciples to Martin Luther King Jr., just like Peter was a disciples to Jesus.  Now we see this same man that had front row seat to all major events including: segregation, blacks being sprayed, beaten, jailed, bit by K-9's, and killed, show boating, wanting to be seen and caught up in sexual scandals to the highest degree. The biggest mistake that leaders make is forgetting that they're leading for the good of others and not just themselves.  I recently saw Jesse's  buddy "Al" coonin' and bafoonin',  cheesing like a rat at a political event.  He reminded me of  "house nigga" chuckling and ready to serve the MASSAH, (Master). These two have killed the dream that Dr. Martin Luther King talked about. I believe his dream was for African Americans to have their own, and share in the success and wealth of America, through self sufficiency and not become victims of the welfare system and making government projects their permanent homes.  Many of our Black leadership has lost their morals, they've lost their way (strayed from God)  and most definitely their manhood. 


Now we are witnessing our people at the lowest standard of living among other races. It's pathetic when other's can move into the country that our ancestors slaved for and take over the wealth that we should had possess.  Many African Americans could not even recognize the wealth that God placed right before their eyes, because they were succumb to the foolishness instead.  Instead of maximizing on business opportunities, they 'll hate on each other,  kill each other, get over and steal from one another. Worst of all,  many are not informed or misinformed about important changes that have occurred on a national level right under their noses that impact our people.  It takes more than just a faithful few black folk with knowledge to make a difference.  


No leader in this day and age can ever have my vote unless they acknowledge God and have a backbone to show for it, and it will be evident.  You'll know if they have a backbone if they're not popular among the presses.  They'll fight for what they believe in and won't back down due to public opinion. You'll know if they have a backbone if they don't take a backseat and compromise with immorality, or start coonin' by becoming a passive go along with crooked leadership.  A lot of people call themselves leaders, but could never measure up or be compared to those of the former day.  They not putting their lives on the line for anyone! and Last but not least, people need to stop comparing Martin Luther King, Jr. with President Barak Obama because the two cannot be compared.




Thursday, October 30, 2014

A Time For Wisdom

By Patricia McKinney
 
 
 
The world as we know it is not the same as it was ten to fifteen years ago.  The genuineness that once existed in the hearts of mankind has dissipated, and many have been tainted by the influence of immorality and evil behavior. Many cover up their true intentions with deception, while others have become hardened and without natural affection because of inner turmoil accumulated over time without ever healing.



Some appear to even be upstanding pillars in society, yet they have secret lifestyles totally opposite from their profession, and they participate in all kinds of immoral practices.  Status holds no significance in this matter, and there's no discrimination from the greatest to the least.


A while back, I read a news report about an older lady that passed away back in November of 2013. After her death, her son proceeded to go to his mothers mobile home to clean up. During the course of cleaning, he stumbled upon the skeletal remains of two infants wrapped inside of a blanket/s within a footlocker inside of his mothers home. It appeared that they'd been there for quite sometime.  I'm sure this man was extremely startled and perplexed by his findings, and I know it had to raise a "Sea" of questions in his mind like, "what happened?" Who put them there? Who's remains are these? Did my mom even know they were there? I'm sure he even tried to recall to mind any type of suspicious detail that he could remembered from the past.  I'm sure the question that may have crossed his mind that he may have easily dismissed was, "did my mom put them there?"  No way, No how!



Until this day, there are no answers as to what happened, but the facts still stands that these remains were place there somehow, even if Mom was totally innocent. But who knows? Maybe these remains  were there before she moved in, but who can tell,  she's deceased.   



This goes to show you that people do many things unheard of, and you need to use all five of the God given senses that He granted to you, as well as a sixth, called discernment.  (some call it intuition, but I say it's much greater than that).



We're living in a time now when deception and evil is at an all time high because people have done away with morals that promote brotherly love, natural affection, consideration for others, integrity, or just common courtesy, and because of that it requires caution and wisdom on our part. We as women can be especially vulnerable and need to use discernment and caution in our dealings because of our emotions.



In my profession, I've heard many horror stories by women and even men that said they never saw warning signs within their relationship, or of the people that came to wreck havoc in their lives. But later on, they'll recall something different and say, "Hey wait a minute, I recall when this or that happened", which says they saw the signs but ignored them.  Unfortunately, some signs can be a little more subtle, where people have been know to pull a " Doctor Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" and surprise you. But not just in relationship, it can be among family, and (so-called) friends.



Many times we ignore warning because we minimize the effects that their behavior could have on us in the long-run.   But the times we live in now requires more "vigilance" and attentiveness on our part, because we're dealing with "Pros" who could win an Grammy Award in a leading role or best supporting actor or actress, but not in a movie, in the game of life.



It's time to take on a realistic view of the days we live in, and use wisdom (learned knowledge applied). But most of all we need God to give us the extra help sometime called discernment, because it's not alway easy to read past an innocent face, whether young or old, or hear through the smooth sounding words of an enemy.

Wednesday, October 29, 2014

The Beauty Of An Opened Mind

By Patricia McKinney
 
 
Have you ever met a complete stranger that told you their life story? If it happens often there's a reason for it. Maybe they recognize a spark in you, or something comforting about you that draws them. People don't have to know you personally to recognize the type of energy that exudes from your presence. 
 
Because I'm a "people's person", with a wealth of life experience. I can be almost anywhere and others will draw to me, because of the energy that I exude. Usually, people are drawn to someone that they feel won't judge them or make them feel condemned (yet they're able to give them the truth, in the confines of love or genuineness). 
 
To be open minded is fulfilling and it opens doors to the impossible.  It leads to a very exciting and liberating life, because you're not placing limits on things that you don't understand or have knowledge of.  I believe to be open minded is a gift from God. With Him there are no limits, and if we have any of His light and love within us, then we will also have compassion and understanding that draws people to Him.

Tuesday, October 28, 2014

Under His Wings

By Karen Ricketts
 
In these times of great affliction
Brotherly love going in extinction 
The word of God put aside for religion
Leading His sheep on the path to destruction
Calamity abounds through mans dysfunction
 
How to survive and endure
Only the Blood of Christ can insure
Redeemed by His love to see us through
Our shield and shelter from the rain
Sustenance to navigate any terrain
 
New ground to conquer and possess
Staying in the press denying the flesh
Only the Father can keep us from harm
Strength from on high to weather the storms
When under His wings wrapped in His arms
 

Monday, October 27, 2014

Controlling Your Own Destiny

By Keesah Pelzer
 
 
One of the most trending topics of conversation in this day and age is being in control of our own destiny. Some people are convinced that ultimately, they have some sort of imaginary remote to their future, as to where they can cultivate all the buttons of life and produce this epic future of positivity, but contrary to the beliefs and feedback that's been circulating on social media, it is impossible to do so.
 
Yes, for every action there is a reaction, or as some may call it, the law of cause and effect. Like for instance, if you touch a hot iron, you're destined get burned, or if you've caused someone harm, harm in return, will eventually be your portion, if you disturb a beehive, you're going to be stung. Those are all examples of the types of things that we have choice over that could bring forth effect. Sure we all want things to go our way, but realistically, to be able to manifest all of those desires on our own, is totally not up to us.
 
We as mere humans cannot predict the outcome of what's to happen to us in the future, we do have choice of what we want and do not want to do, but we don't have control over what others want and do not want to do, and that alone can cause situations and circumstances that are inevitable, leaving us without any sort leverage on life's outcome.

So, say we were actually granted the opportunity to able to be in control of all things that happens to us, what our futures holds and how it would play out. How many of us would chose the path we need in life vs the path we want? Look back at your life, and all the decisions you've made since you were old enough to rationally think for yourself. Look at the mistakes we've made all because we wanted to be in "control". Look at all the bad relationships we were in and heart break we've experienced, because we thought we knew what was right for us. I know for myself, when I was trying to take control of my own destiny, I was a wreck. I didn't know right from wrong, meaning the real way to live, so I was making all the wrong decisions. It takes God to show us right from wrong, and up from down, because without His directions,  we'd be in ruins.
 
Indeed each one of us has our own destiny, and God does in fact give us free will and choice, but those choices are solely not enough for us to manifest and prevent things from happening in our future with our own powers, and to be honest, God knows what we're going to do before it even comes to us as a thought. We may have some sort of control over what we do individually, but what about everything and everyone else around us? Those things effects us as well. So with that being said, God is the only one that's in control over everything, not us.

Friday, October 24, 2014

Too Much Too Soon

By Angela Cox

I once read a story about the "The Prodigal Son", a young man that wanted to receive his inheritance way before his time, meaning before he was mentally ready and wise enough to handle it. (He reminds me of a teenager that says, "I can't wait until I get 18, so I can move out of here, and do what I want!)  Anyway....
 
One day he decided to go to his father with "his hands out" to ask for his fare share of his inheritance, but instead of his father saying "No" to his sons request, he gave  him what he asked for. 


Once this young man received his inheritance, he anxiously set out to venture and splurge aimlessly until his inheritance was all gone, leaving him broke and hungry, with no one to care for him or give him anything at all. After reality set in, and he came to his senses, he decided to swallow his pride, and return to his fathers house to plead for mercy and forgiveness with the hope of being accepted again.  Fortunately, he was accepted with opened arms and loved by his father as if he never left home or made such a careless mistake.


As we can see here, the prodigal, like myself and most human beings that walk the face of the earth, possess a simple character flaw that's called being anxious and sometimes we want things that we're not mentally,  physically, or spiritually ready for or able to handle. We want too much too soon. 


For example, we rush into relationship's without the slightest whim of the persons true character or intentions concerning us, or we give too much of ourselves too soon. We share all of our personal business with people that are not mature enough to keep it confidential, and we share our deepest secrets with those that will misjudge us and cast seeds of condemnation. Some will even use what we tell them (especially in relationships) as ammunition during a heated argument to remind us of our past with the attempt to bring our spirit down. It's only after our anxious decisions have left us in shambles,  and we walk away feeling empty, worn out and broken inside that we finally come to our senses. It's not until we fall hard, that we can recognize that we all stand in need of Guidance from Someone far more wise than we are, and that's God. 


There is a Heavenly Father we can turn to that cares. He knows that we like the prodigal son, lack wisdom or think that we know what's best when in actuality we don't. He knows that we are flawed beings in need of change from within. But he also gave us a free will and allows us to go through things to teach us life lessons (without taking them away from us). He allows it so we might learn from being anxious and making poor decisions. Sometimes it's not until we've lost everything or squandered good things away that we acknowledge our need for him, and that our way may not be the right way, but He knows what's best for us.

Thursday, October 23, 2014

Stand

By Karen Ricketts
 
I know I need to stand
Stand no matter the weather
Planting each foot firmly against the storms of life
Staying awake and alert no matter

Eyes, ears and heart open wide to you each day
Seeking a wind of change to blow my way
To stand when my tomorrow is uncertain
Knowing your love is steadfast and unchanging 

Stand I must on His Word and promises
Discarding disobedience and denial - hindrances
Truth is, the fight is internal as well
But always in faithfulness and truth, seek to excel
 
Stand still and see the salvation of the Lord
For by your strength I can do all things
Though I often stumble and waver
With just a mustard seed size of faith oh the wonders
 

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

A Spirit Of Excellence

By Patricia McKinney
 
In order to have anything worth value in life, whether it be a business, organization, group, etc., it not only takes hard work, but also a spirit of excellence to draw people.  As a business owner, CEO and President of my own Private Foundation and businesses, I can honestly say that it's both the professionalism and excellence spirit that draws people.  What is an excellent spirit?  It's good character, and professionalism in how you deal with people, and how you operate as a business.  One with an excellent spirit takes pride in what they do, and their presentation is at it's highest standard.  When a prospect, customer, or client comes to you, they'll know that they'll get good quality service and the best of care because of your level of expertise.
 

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

Be You


By Keesah Pelzer
 
 
If you look around today, all you see is the same thing. The same clothes, the same shoes, and the same hair. The same thoughts, the same behavior and actions, and even the same consequences. The problem is, no one knows who they really are, so it seems easier to take on someone else's character, instead of discovering who we are as a person. We all see someone that's different or doing something differently, and we can receive inspiration from that, but to completely "copy and paste" someone else's trademark (so to speak), is beyond what they would call "swagger jacking".

In most cases we feel who we are as a person is not enough, so we take on this alter ego, in order to even out our inadequacies. Rarely do you find someone that's bold enough to let their uniqueness shine through, and not try to ride someone else's wave. We tend to shy away from displaying our true flavor, so we'll hold back on being creative, and diverse, all because we're not sure how its going to come out, or if others will respect it. We're scared that we'll be rejected and labeled as a "weirdo" or a "freak", or even for someone to tell us that they don't like our ideas.

Finding who you really are is anything but easy, because in all actuality, we're not the ones that's doing the uncovering. We have to allow God to strip us from the old, so He can reveal what's been hidden on the inside of us. In simpler terms, its kind of like a needle in the hay stack. The hay, being all the things we need to be purged of, which is surrounding the needle, who we really are (possessing the potential to be sharper).
 
I have yet to find myself, and to be quite honest, I have a long way to go in order to tap into what  has been placed on the inside of me, but I have a better understanding that it doesn't come by picking up another major in school, or wearing designer clothes, because when all of those things are stripped from us, we still remain unidentified. Finding who you are comes from being refined, and purified by God, and to do away with everything that we have created ourselves to be. How else will you be able to be you?
 

Monday, October 20, 2014

Impact

By Karen Ricketts
 
 
Life as we know it is marked by time period of events, situations, and circumstances that all come together to form our experiences. We then categorize these experiences based on how much or how little we like it, whether it produced joy, anger, hurt, or pain. In other words we are measuring the impact these events and time periods have on our lives. The same is true of the people involved with these events as they can leave a lasting impact whether we liked and got along with them or not.
 
I can recall a store manager I had, working retail as a teenager. At the time I thought she was just plain mean and not a nice person at all, but looking back, if she was too friendly and let us slack off she wouldn't have been an effective store manager. As a teenager my work ethic was slack, I would have spent most of my time walking around to all the departments chatting it up with the other slackers, getting no work done.
 
On the opposite side of things, when I was around nine years old, me and my younger sister still an infant at the time had to go live with complete strangers. My mother had gotten the opportunity to migrate to the US, a dream come true for every poor Jamaican. The couple that took us in had a son around my age who's father was also my sister's father, her half brother. (pause). This sounds like a recipe for disaster, but actually this lady, a complete stranger, practically adopted me and my sister as her own. She treated us no different than her biologically son.
 
The magnitude of this didn't register with me until I was in my mid twenties. What a heart, what kindness. I reached out to her at that time and told her what she meant to me, but even today I'm even more grateful for the kindness she showed us. As an adult coming into the knowledge of God, I've learned that God will send you people you need and not necessarily those you want. In other words, it's sometimes the people that irritate you and get under your skin that he'll use to mold and shape you.
 
Don't always be too quick to run to the people, places and things that you're familiar with, that makes your flesh feel good. Often times, it's the ones we clash with or try to avoid that may have something to offer us. At the age of nine, I never expected that woman to be kind to me, but she was more than that. God is in the "good" as well as what we call the "bad", but we have to stand and allow him to use those around us as he sees fit.
 
I thank God also that he placed in my life another women (mentor and spiritual leader), who has the high standards and work ethic similar to that of the strick store manager, but also a big heart like the woman raising the kids of the other baby mother. She is effective in my life and in the lives of others by example and by giving us what we need in truth and love. This produces a positive and effective impact.

Friday, October 17, 2014

There Is Beauty In Being An Outcast

By Angela Cox
 
I had to learn that God allows those closest too us to cast us away, to reject us, disrespect us, and mistreat us, causing us to feel like a puzzle piece that doesn't fit into their ideal scheme of things. It's because our purpose in life is different from theirs, and even though it doesn't feel good at first, it's for our own benefit. He doesn't want His masterpiece to be destroyed by those that don't appreciate the beauty of a masterpiece, and He wants us to discover our own worth and purpose in life that will shine like the morning sun, for all to see. Once you allow him to change the way you think, and give you a new heart. Once this happens, He will cause the very ones that cast you away, that didn't value the masterpiece to question, "who is this that appears like the dawn, as fair as the moon, as bright as the sun, and majestic as the stars in procession" (Song of Solomon). God will shine his light on you for others to see the miracle that he performed in your life, because you "the outcast" is a masterpiece in His eyes, rejected by man and accepted by Him.

Thursday, October 16, 2014

Children Are Being Forced Into Adulthood Before Their Time

By Patricia McKinney
 
 
One of the most beautiful things in God's creation is the miracle of child birth. Our former generation would celebrate it. Grandparents would anticipate the new borns arrival, they'd even brag once they were born. For new parents, it's a once and a lifetime experience, and they'll spend months preparing. Once the child is born, they'll do everything in their power to ensure it's safety and provision, searching high and low for the best caregiver in their absence. They'd spend hours teaching the child and setting limits to guard them from negative influences so they can keep their innocence for as long as possible.
 

But in today's society, the celebration of life has lost its popularity and it's evident not only in the rate of abortions we see, but also the tragic loss of our children's innocence, and how they're being forced into adulthood before their time. The needs of children have been neglected, their innocence rejected and overlooked like a holiday that comes around once a year, celebrated every now and then.
 

Many of today's children are born victims to society, and seeds doomed for destruction before they even have a chance. They're born opened prey to sexual predators, victims of violence, and uncovered, unshielded from negative elements, because of a complete absence of good parenting. Many children were born from parents that were teens, or young adults that gave birth as a result of a fly by night relationship, a one night stand, or someone they had "fun" with, or did drugs/alcohol with, which means they weren't ready to be a parent/s at all. Some adults even use pregnancy as a tool to trap a man into staying in a relationship, or for financial means, and use their children as pawns. Others use their children as a money tool, or a vehicle to live out their own dreams because of their own insecurities, forcing them to grow up like the children of "Toddlers & Tiara's", while others look for love in all the wrong places and end up with a child before their time.
 

Many small children are born to parents that live the fast life, and are very promiscuous. They'll even dress their child in seductive clothing, promoting adult behavior, leaving them opened to pedophiles, while the child acts out and draws negative attention. Others are victims of broken homes, where the father is incarcerated, and they live impoverished in a single parent home, or both parents are absent and they're being raised by a relative who's incapable. They experience and witness abuse and neglect of all kinds, parents that have habits and addictions, or irresponsible adults that want to have their "fun", and aren't mentally ready to settle down. Some are totally neglectful, exposing their children to negative elements, leaving the children to think for themselves, make adult decisions too soon, and raise themselves.
 

They'll argue and fight in front of the children, have sex around their children (sometimes with various partners), have adult parties with their children in attendance, allow them to participate in adult conversations, leave their children unattended for hours to watch themselves, or expose them to  whatever they as parents, watch on television, or leave them to their own devices on social media. I've witnessed how some parents even put their five and six year old child (some even younger) on YouTube, in the presence of millions of viewers to shake, grind, and gyrate while being prompted,cheered on, congratulated, and laughed at by who? Adults!
 

I've also witnessed children on YouTube, cursing at each other, calling each other's *B's, to kiss my %#, and later when the child grows up and disrespects the parents as well as other adults, we wonder why?! Need I say more? Many parents and their poor parenting are to blame for children being forced into adulthood, as well as many issues that plague our young ones today. Unfortunately, many blame society when things go wrong, or their child is reprimanded for the behavior that their own parents promoted.
 

Even though there's still parents that work hard and raise their children to the best of their ability, and their child might grow up and venture down the wrong path, at least they don't have to bare the scares of neglect ,or that fact that they didn't do their job. We as parents hold the responsibility to do the best we can, and have been given the responsibility by God to love our children,and care for them as long as we can.
 
 
To see our children acting like adults before their time, is a sure sign that many parents have failed along the way and we can't blame everything on society and the influences that be. We are first partakers of the responsibility.

Wednesday, October 15, 2014

Lies...

By Keesah Pelzer


 
A pathological liar is someone who lies with ease and finds comfort in doing so. Even after being presented with hard core, stone cold facts, the person still will try to convince you that what they said is the truth. Though a lie is a lie, there are still many levels to the severity of this contagious habit.
 
Seeking attention by pretending to be the victim of the crime, when in all actuality, you're the one who has violated someone, is one of the most common traits of a liar. When we know someone is lying, it's in our nature to try to collect evidence to prove that person wrong. In most cases, we know when the other party is being dishonest, because they start stuttering, their stories have holes (missing pieces), it's inconsistent, and the things that are being said just doesn't seem to add up to the visual, but their are times when we fall victim to these stories, because they sound so believable, (Take the government for example). 
 
Of course we all tell little white lies here and there, but it should never be to the point where someone else's livelihood is at stake. When people lie (especially about important things), they don't realize the type of impact that they can have on another persons life. Depending on the circumstances, they can cause someone to lose everything that they've worked for, including their health, and their right state of mind, especially if the lie has been carried on for years.
 
I've seen people lie to their own children about who their real fathers are, who they are as a parent, and things as simple as their achievements in life.  Lies tear up families, and bonds between mothers and children, that can only take the power of God to mend the trust that was broken, because it's impossible to pick up where you've left off when you find out that the life you were living was all a lie.

While their are people who only lie to protect someone else from getting hurt, there are also the ones who just aren't satisfied until they have distributed their daily dosage of deceit, and if we're not careful, we can find ourselves borderline crazy from trying to convince ourselves and them, (as well as others) that they're wrong.
 
Through personal experiences and let down's, I found that there are a lot of people who are just natural born liars, and to try to prove them wrong, will be a waste of time, and energy. They fib so much that it has become primary nature, kind of like breathing and blinking. They do it with out giving much thought to what it is that they're saying, which is extremely scary and dangerous. I definitely fell in that category once in my life, but when I came into the understanding of God, he showed me that lies wont be tolerated with him. That would be a contradiction, because he stands for truth, and it's impossible to receive the truth if you are a liar.
 

Tuesday, October 14, 2014

The Pursuit Of Happiness


By Karen Ricketts
 
 
Happiness is defined individually in today's society where it seems like every and any type of behavior is tolerated or accepted. In other words, to each his own as long as it makes you happy.


Most of society see's happiness as being tangible, something you can hold, touch or attain, including people. Some chase material possessions and the finer things in life. Happiness to them comes in owning the newest, sleekest, hippest and shinny-est version of anything put out on the market. They are in hot pursuit of anyone and anything that can contribute to their thirst. It's like a happiness pill they hunt, scratch and scrape for, but once swallowed wears off with a quickness that leaves them wanting more.

It is so easy to get tangled up in things that seem to satisfy your craving for happiness and fulfillment. Some fixate on having and finding a partner, because not having a man or woman attached to them leads to sadness. Others seek happiness in a certain car, job, house, or anything conceived in their mind as happiness.

The pursuit of happiness in this manner is like a dog chasing after its own tail, going around and around in circles, getting tired and dizzy but still somehow believing. Once in a blue moon he might catch it, but only momentarily as he loses grip and has to start all over again, tired and unfulfilled. That's because real happiness is intangible, related to your mental and psychological state and is not acquired and measured by your possessions, status, or who you know.

You can start by changing your definition and view of happiness from the tangible to the intangible. The roadway or path to real happiness starts when we begin to address the internal hurt, pain, rejection, and failures we endured in life. I've been one of those women chasing practically all of the above mentioned, only to end up winded with added hurt and pain along the way.

Getting older slowed me down, but age didn't change the intangible or physical things I held up as my idea of happiness. The Light that came to show me the error of my ways and thinking was Christ. The attainment of things will only bring you temporary gladness. Christ can lead you to that roadway to heal all your wounds. The healing process does take time, but in the mist of it you can experience real joy, contentment and satisfaction as well.


Monday, October 13, 2014

Women In Transition


    CEO & President Patricia McKinney
                             
       Assistant Angela Cox
 
          Saturday 11th 2014 At Our Headquarters