Women In Transition...Where Change Begins

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Friday, December 19, 2014

Self Encouragement

By Keesah Pelzer

How many times do we wake up, and roll out of the bed feeling discouraged and defeated? We feel like things are never going to get done when it comes to our personal lives, it feels like we just don't have the strength to hang in there, and sometimes it even feels like our prayers are being discarded. There are countless times that these feelings have surfaced in my life, and I'm sure I'm not alone. At times it gets hard to look at things on the bright side and see past the microscopic issues that we're dealing with, even though they sometimes seem as big as a mountain.

You hear people all the time telling you "its going to be ok, you're strong, and the Lord gives the toughest battles to his strongest soldiers. Gods got you!" Don't get me wrong, its awesome to hear inspiration from elsewhere, and those words may even hold some truth, but the reality of it is that we feel the complete opposite sometimes. There's nothing wrong with someone else giving words of encouragement to us, but what I found is that we become dependent on others to lift us up when we're feeling down. We look to others in hopes that perhaps they'd give us a divine message from above, or will pray for us when we can pray for ourselves. We rely on and find comfort in their words instead of the words from the Almighty.

Everyone needs to be uplifted from time to time, but it has gotten to a point where we cant just wait for others to encourage us, we have to encourage ourselves as well. We have to remember that we're not going to get set up so we can fall, no matter what the case is. We have to remember how far we came, and how much of a struggle it was, whether it was from losing weight, battling addiction, leaving someone that you thought you couldn't live without, or entering into a different phase in life, but nonetheless it can be done. We didn't make it this far by the grace of God to give up, and go back to the dyer circumstances that we were in before we met him. All of these things should be a form of ammunition to keep us going when life gets hard and we don't have the strength to go on ourselves. After all its not our strength that we're relying on, its God's strength.

Life is always going to be a battle and its like every man for themselves, but through the mental, physical, emotional, natural, and spiritual struggle, remember why we're fighting, and not to always wait for someone else to reassure us and tell us things are going to be ok. We have to continue to fight daily, especially when we reach a place where we're strong enough to do so on our own.

We have to keep contending...even when it feels like we're being defeated.

Thursday, December 18, 2014

Broken Vessel

By Karen Ricketts



Nowadays, we live in what they call a "throw away" society. If something you buy breaks or stops working, you just throw it out and buy a new one. Unless it's really expensive, and has some value then you might get it fixed. As vessels of Christ we go through so much in life that causes cracks and breaks in us, in our hearts, mind, body, soul and spirit.


A broken vessel, let's say a clay vessel made to hold water is unable to be used for that purpose as designed by the potter because it has been compromised. It is broken either through misuse, overuse, or mishandling. You can be broken from what you go through and endure in life like pain, heartache, failures, rejection, abuse, and all the ills that life has to offer. These will compromise and cause breaks in your vessel. My vessel in this case is me and your vessel is you.

Wounds and defects can sometimes go so deep and be so traumatic that you'd rather forget it and move on. But it's always going to be there either festering or laying dormant. One thing I do know is that Jesus came for the broken vessels, the sick, the broken hearted and the wounded. His desire is to heal us from everything that was done wrong to us and from every wrong that we did to ourselves and to others. He's the Potter, but first I have to get on the Potter's wheel and allow him to heal and fix me up.

I'm of more value to him, just because I am broken. He'd rather I come to him to get healed and delivered as only he knows the wrongs to make right in my life. I have to tell you getting healed or fixed up is not a pain free process. Emphasis on process. It is daunting when you have to come face to face with those traumatic, buried, sinful or dirty part of you but it's a process that's worth it.


I have a long way to go, and will continually need to be on the Potter's wheel as long as there's breath in me. But you know what, there's no place else I'd rather be. 

Wednesday, December 17, 2014

The Greatness Of Being A Woman

By Audrey Panton

Liberty and equal rights for women, is this the real deal or a bunch of crap? God never made men to be superior and usurp ownership over women, when he created Adam, put him to sleep, took a rib out of his side and created women.  The most beautiful, delicate, sensitive, but strong, nurturer and compassionate, firm, smart, creative and emotional, but sensible being; all wonderful attribute from GOD and of GOD. You can never deny that we are wonderful, different and diverse from men, and we should be proud of it.  I never wanted to be a man because I've always been happy being a woman. There is nothing greater than being a woman and there is nothing greater than being a man.  We were all designed with a role to play from the beginning. GOD did not just create us whimsically without a prefect plan for us.

If the humans that God created would play the part that was giving them, then we would balance out each other and the world.  When GOD gave Adam and Eve, male and female their instructions, he gave them dominion over the earth to be fruitful and multiply but the evil one Satan came in and caused division. I do believe that there are some things that man shouldn't do and can't do, that women should and can. There are also some things that women shouldn't do and shouldn't want to do that men do. Why should we add more to our jobs when we already have enough on our plates?  

Now that the roles have been flipped flopped and revised, we have disturbed the laws of nature and when that happens, it has a way of having a boom-a-ring effect which is never a good thing. There is a saying that, "you can't fool mother nature" or "don't fool with mother nature''. Do I feel that women should have liberties? yes.  Do I feel that women should be treated equal? yes. Do I think this is bunch of crap? no.

My sincere out look is merely this, if we had stuck with the original plan of GOD from the beginning and not have gone our own way (because we think we know best) then this would simply not be an issue or topic of discussion that has led to discord. There are principles that The LORD and GOD has given from the foundation of the world, and when they are not followed by the letter, then we have chaos. Women, just know we are not a silent voice or a voice to be silenced. We are not just behind every good man, we are the producer of every good man, we are not rulers of nations, we are the creator of nations, we are the reproducers of mankind and womankind we nurture, we love, we give, we train, we teach we instruct and we are the ones who help develop, mold and shape the people in this world, both good and bad. The human race could not continue to exist without WOMEN. Who can top that job? We are not to be disregarded or belittled or feel worthless, because that was never the way GOD imagine us. 

Tuesday, December 16, 2014

Blood Is Not Always Thicker Than Water

By Patricia McKinney
 
 
Who say's blood is thicker than water? This may be a fact scientifically, but when it comes to family or people we've known long-term that we treat as family, this is not always a true statement.  Have you ever had a friend that stuck closer than a brother? The two of you were inseparable.  During your time of hardship they provided their natural or moral support when you needed it the most.  They may have even opened their home to you and provided you with a place to lay your head during a time of trouble. Every now and then, and angel will come our way in the form of a person that will be the glue to hold us together and keep us going.  They'll do the unthinkable that's never been seen before among our own people.
 
Many people grow up with the expectation or teaching that family is the most trusted source, and the only ones to confide in during a time of crisis. Being raised with this concept, can leave you opened to wounds that are more severe than wounds inflicted by a stranger.  Sometime we grow up with false expectations and a false sense of security.  We as human beings make the mistake of trusting people simply because we know them or they're related to us.  We tend to overlook flaws with the mindset that their behavior won't effect us.  We take a passive stance and tell ourselves that "they would never do that to me" even if they did rob a bank, somehow during desperate times they'll overlook my pocketbook and go on to the next candidate.  

Many family members have tolerated behavior that would normally land a stranger in front of a  judge in a court of law, or behind bars.   Some even put their lives on hold, jeopardized marriages, put their children in harms way, emptied out their pocketbooks, and come away from family like wounded soldiers, disrespected, dishonored and disregarded.   There have been many cases where crimes have been committed by family members.  A child's first inflicted wounds can be cause by those right in their own camp, their own family. Most rapes, molestation and forms abuse, and even more heinous acts against children are committed by those in the home, or by someone close to the family deemed to be a "trustworthy" source. Even though all people are not the same. We should dwell with people according to wisdom and use good judgement when making decisions, even if it is our own family.  Put our emotions to the side and look at things for what they really are. Although this may not apply to all people, there are many that realize blood is not always thicker than water, and they can separate fact from fiction when dealing with people.

Monday, December 15, 2014

The Full Armor

By Cathy Turner

Have you ever gone through a stage in your life and you ask the question, "why me", I've experienced that point in my life numerous times and the answer would softly sweep my spirit, "why not". When we  as a human go through the low points in our lives, we tend to take it personal and embrace it with full strength, I mean of course it's personal, but our "Mess" as I describe it, becomes a "message" for someone else, who may be going through and amazingly as it may sound, they usually are in the lows of life where you or I may still be.


The "pain" of life is for "gain", it's suppose to strengthen, build character, create wisdom and knowledge.  In life there are so many levels, and until we accomplish and complete those levels, we will never reach the top.  If you really look at it, it's sort of like school, there are grade levels, but in order to pass to the next grade one must master that grade level by passing all tests and then promotion takes place, but unfortunately there are others who want answers from outside, as how to pass the test of life, and we all know that in school should this happen, it is considered cheating, so we must seek our answers from God, if not we will find ourselves repeating the same level over and over again.


As it is in the natural, so it is in the spiritual rim of life.  I myself have struggled time and time again in these areas of seeking the answers from others, and sometimes those answers I received were incorrect, so guess what?  Yes, I had to repeat many levels in life, until I purchased my own supplies and low and behold, I began to pass test after test, and my levels in life began to elevate.  Here I will give you those tools and they are to be used in every area of your lives, never do they expire.


In Ephesians 6:10-17 it speaks of our daily wear and this attire will help you to master difficult levels in life that you may encounter. This entire Armor is to be used daily, and sometimes I sleep with the Helmet on to protect my subconscious mind... I must say it works.




Friday, December 12, 2014

Reality, Fantasy And Avoiding Resposibility

By Patricia McKinney


Many people are avoidance addicts when it comes to facing responsibility.  They avoid facing reality so they can continue to live in "fantasy land", where they don't have to face their problems or be responsible.   They fear the loss of freedom (which can include time and money),  popularity, and backlash from other's, or just being faced with the naked truth about themselves. Have your heard of the phrase, "out of sight, out of mind?" It's much easier to live with a mindset of the hear and now, and gratifying our desire for leisure, rather than plunging into this big bad world where there's real conflict, hardship, and obstacles that require survival mechanisms to navigate through challenges.


Being responsible is a learned quality that's usually installed during our early stages by parents or caregivers.  They teach us to be accountable by giving us chores or small duties around the house, and they hold us responsible for the proper follow through and completion of each task. This develops good habits and order within the child, and if it's a consistent practice in the home, it becomes a part of their character, which helps to eliminate laziness. Also, if the task is not complete or goes lacking, then the parent holds the child accountable for their actions.
  
I've witnessed first hand that not all people learn responsibility early, some have to literally be thrown to the wolves and shaken out of the comfort of being a couch potato. I find that we live in a culture now days where the lazy outweigh the vigilant. The signs are very evident among our culture of teenagers and shamefully in many of our adults.  It shows in they way they carry themselves, their lack of respect for others, lethargy in the work place and lack of customer service (if they have a job), and not to mention the sagging pants, or cleavage while they work the cash register at the grocery store.   Some teenagers actually believe that "the world owes them something", while others may have to get a job to help pay for their school clothes, cell phones, etc. and by doing so it teaches them responsibility.


The problem in today's society is that there are too many people living in fantasy land that never learned to be responsible, to work, pay bills, or take care of their household or family, or be held accountable for their own actions.  There are grown men living with their parents that don't work or contribute to the household because they missed a valuable teaching on being responsible, and were enabled by their parent/s instead.   These same grown men will leave their parents home and go to their "baby mama's" house and she'll enable him also. This is a prime example of missing the foundation of responsibility, because they never had to face the real world and it's requirements, or be accountable for their own actions. You also have young women that pass their children off  to their mom or grandmother to care for them, while they hang out with friends, go clubbing,  or spend time in the company of a man instead. Even though she wears the title of a mother, she doesn't fit the bill because she's not responsible, and this behavior only continues because she has an enabler that allows her to do so.

Our prison systems are filled with well, able bodied people with a wealth of potential, but lack a realistic view of life and what it is to be responsible. At the same time you have people in the world that believe the world owes them something, and they easily blame shift instead of taking responsibility for their own actions. 

Even the first man that God created (Adam) had to till the ground in the Garden of Eden, which means he was given a responsibility. What makes us exempt? We've gotten too far away from this moral ethic and principle of responsibility and accountability.  I believe we'd have a much better society of people if  they would take responsibility for their own actions and failures, and cut the belief that the world owe them something when they haven't put forth effort or made contributions.  Just like the first man God created, we also have the responsibility to till the ground in our own lives, to face the real world and be contributors, to be accountable for ourselves and our actions,  and pass this quality down to our children.

Thursday, December 11, 2014

Hustle Hard

By Keesah Pelzer


When you think of a hustler, what is the first thing that comes to mind? Some one who relentlessly sells drugs day in and day out, or perhaps a stripper of some sort, working to make ends meeting to take care of home.

Although those are deemed as stereo typical nouns, what people don't know is that in God, much like the stripper and the drug dealer, we have to hustle too. When I say hustle, I don't mean to sell our bodies, or stand on the block distributing crack, but more like put in work to meet the requirements that needs to be met in God.

Here's simple example; lets say you were stranded on a deserted beach in the middle of nowhere, with absolutely nothing, but not too far ahead of you is a little island with everything you need (like food and fresh water), but there's only one problem, a body of water is in between the food and you, how are you going to get to the island? That means you have to get in the water and hustle to get there, by any means necessary, so if you have to build a raft, or ride the waves, then you have to do what you have to do.In the same way, God will make things available for us, but we have to do the foot work to get it, and sometimes it's going to seem like a stretch or outlandish.

Most people think that you don't have to hustle in God, like everything is going to just fall into your lap, or that the money is going to grow on trees, when in all actuality, its not. There are going to come times when you have to bring saved up bottles back to the store and cash them in, or sale your worldly possessions, like jewelry or electronics just so you can come up with the extra money.
We as Gods chosen people are not exempt from grinding. My mom and dad always taught my sisters and I that if God said he's going to do something for us, or grant us access to something, we have to work that word, in other words, we have to put in the foot work, because when He sees that we've taken a step, then He will move on our behalf. Not all blessings are going to be presented to us on a silver platter, because God doesn't operate in that manner to where he just passes out gifts and blessings without us putting in physical work.

In order to survive in todays world or even in God, we must have some type of hustle in us, because without it we'd miss out on so much opportunity, all due to laziness an complacency. Frederick Douglass said it best, "If there is no struggle, there is no progress", and hustling & striving all come with the territory when serving the almighty God.

Wednesday, December 10, 2014

Wise Counsel

By Karen Ricketts


Growing up as a young child, the society I lived in had certain customs or norms you were expected to follow and adhere to. As a child the rules and norms that applied to us were definitely more strictly enforced. For example, just simply addressing any adult by their name without including the Miss or Mr. was bound to get reported to your parent as a form of disrespect.

In the schools I attended it was unheard of and would have made the Ripley's Believe It Or Not list for a student to address a teacher any other way. Saying society and parenting norms of discipline was strict back then would be an understatement. Coming from this, I've realized how things have vastly changed. Expectations, values and norms have completely shifted.

Disciplining your child today is a slippery slope, and the children have been empowered with the law on their side. Just using the right words to the authorities can get you as the parent in a mess of trouble. Times have truly changed, as society itself is a witness to adults behaving badly even more so, leaving few real role models for children to look up to.

Any parent today has to use different parenting techniques now because what might have had some effect back then, don't work in these modern times. Sometimes qualified outside intervention is necessary by someone who is qualified in words and deeds to help you and your child. Meaning someone with wisdom and experience raising children themselves on the foundation and principles of God.


I thank God for the Spiritual Leaders that I have in my life, for not only do they lead by example, but they also counsel and mentor us as a family. I truly believe that you're never too old to learn. Even at this age I realize that I have a lot to learn, and I want to stay open to correction and guidance.


It gets difficult at times parenting children, but with God's help we can do all things. I frequently call on the Lord for assistance, counsel and guidance in raising my children and he has never failed me.


Children today are exposed to so much more than we ever were, which requires us to adapt our parenting techniques to this age. It's definitely on the job training that requires my continued relationship and obedience to Christ, for even when situations and crisis arise, I always hope in him.

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

Keep Your Eyes On The Prize

By Audrey Panton

Keeping our eyes on the prize will help us to stay focused through the challenges we face daily, especially when we turn our attention to life's problems. Just like Peter took his focus off of the prize, when he went to step out on the water and he began to sink, our laughter and joy are drowned out by frustrations of life leaving us to sunk in misery. Our happiness is contingent upon people and how they make us feel.  All day, everyday we're being tossed to and fro in our minds, and ambushed by our own thoughts, until the little peace that we claimed hold of is gone, and we can't find it anywhere.

There was a time in my life where I felt that I had it all under control, but the truth of the matter is, I was being manipulated by my own emotions, they were the true ruler of my life. Not focused on the prize, I made plenty of mistakes and excuses for my temper and behavior. Even justifying my responses and reactions to my circumstances and situations. Not being able to change  the situations or people around me, nor myself, it was taking its toll on me, but I didn't recognize how much.


Like Peter I found myself in the middle of the ocean in a ship stranded, my focus on the prize had become blurred and hopeless, trying to focus but the cares of  this life had me shook and blocked it.  I began to send out a distress cry for help, "Mayday, mayday send help, mayday, mayday, GOD send help, I need your help, I can't do this without you." I had become helpless and I realized that I needed the Lord.  The truth of the matter is, I had always been helpless and in need of God's rescuing.

When you lose focus of the prize things and began to pull the strings, things become unraveled, even more than what you can stand. Turn your focus to Christ Jesus he is the prize. Circumstance, trouble, and disappointment may still be there, but that's life. Keep your eyes on Jesus and he will bring you peace and help. He'll send a tug boat to rescue you like he did for me.  Refocus your lens, take it off of you and keep your eyes (MIND) on Jesus. Easily said than done, right? Try it and it will be worth it. Call on him and he will help you.   

Monday, December 8, 2014

Keep Striving

By Angela Cox
 
 
Not too long ago, I fell on hard times and ending up starting over again after losing my job, and the small pad (apartment) that I called home.


During that period of time in my life, everything seemed foggy and unclear. I couldn't put the puzzle pieces together even if I tried. At times, it seemed like a struggle just to "rub two nickels together". All I knew was that if I kept my hand in Gods hand, then eventually I'd see the light of day, and things would turn around for the better.

 
It was crucial during this time that I stayed uplifted, and in the right state of mind so that depression,  frustration and worry couldn't creep in to sap my joy.  I had to focus on good things, by being grateful for what I did have, while staying prayerful, and digesting things that would inspire me. I had to keep the wolves at bay, meaning those that breathe bad energy and constant negativity about my situation. I had to hold onto encouraging words that I received, and recall to mind the things that I had been taught from the example set before me by my Mentors. During troubling times, you'll always need someone else's example that demonstrates a pillar of strength, a strong will, zeal, and determination. Because in this world, there's many people that are "as weak as water" that succumb to their circumstances, and would love for you to join them in their misery and pity parties. Here's a prime example:

 
One day I was leaving the computer lab, after spending long hours seeking employment, when a few ladies I knew caught up to me while I was walking about 100 miles an hour in what felt like "10 degree" weather.

 
Although it was freezing outside, one of the ladies decided that its was a good time to kick up conversation with the motive to pry her way into my business. So she starts the conversation by asking how my job search was going and how things were going with finding an apartment. Even though at the present moment, I didn't see anything materializing, and there were times when I felt worry and fear, but I refused to let her know that because misery loves company. So I remained optimistic about the situation and told her that things were moving along quite well. I'm glad that I didn't reveal anything to her because she ending up being very negative about my situation and tried to compare my dilemma to hers. It was very clear that she lacked any kind of motivation, and determination in her own life, so of course she couldn't encourage me.
 
She had actually been homeless and moved from shelter to shelter and tried to say that I do the same if I didn't hurry up and secure employment. She made it seem like I'd become a victim of circumstance at the mercy of everyone else. The bad thing about that was how she spoke with such conviction as if what she was saying was absolutely true. But I quickly corrected her and said " What applies to you doesn't apply to me" and from that point on I'd keep her and others with that kind of attitude a the distance of a 10 foot pole.
 
But even though I tried to shield myself from bad energy, the words that she spoke and my present circumstance looked like she was right, but thank God she wasn't. I decided to keep on striving, regardless of what the situation looked like and the feelings of discouragement and doubt that made things look seem so grim, I continued to seek God in prayer and didn't give up. Eventually, things began to turn around for the better, I secured employment and got another place even better than before.  But when I did, guess what?  The lady with the bad advice, that compared me to her, was still in the same predicament.  Whenever I saw her, she was still complaining, still making excuses as to why she was in the same situation, and still giving everyone else bad advise, (hopefully that didn't listen too it). That's why it's important not lend your ear to just anything, because your outcome can be totally different than someone else's, even if it looks like the two of you are in the same boat at that present moment.
 
 
Although things don't happen overnight at times, God has a perfect timing when he will open doors if you acknowledge him, desire a relationship with him, and seek to please him. So whatever you go through, keep striving to move forward, to do better, to be different, because if God is in the equation, you can't go wrong, and your hardships will be lessons learned. Life wasn't designed to be easy all of the time, but the good thing is, you won't stay there forever. With God, things will eventually turn around for the better and you will see the light of day.



Sunday, December 7, 2014

Happy Sunday!!

                                               CEO Patricia McKinney


Sometimes it's best for you to take your hands off of certain situations all together before you find that you've gotten yourself in way too deep. I've learned from experience that if you take time to seek God for his helping hand in a bad situation that he will give you the strength to keep you from getting yourself in trouble, and hold you back from making a mess.... Enjoy your Sunday!

Friday, December 5, 2014

Stay True to Yourself...

                                                CEO Patricia McKinney


Thinking that you're incapable of achieving higher because someone else has set the bar, or standards is somewhat of a disease. I truly believe that there is no limit in what we can do in God. I had to learn the hard way that sometimes when people don’t support you’re ideas, it may be more about them than you. It could be plain ignorance or even jealousy, but either way you put it, we can't allow someone to stop us and tell us it can't be done, because we can do all things through Christ who strengthens us.

Promises

By Keesah Pelzer


Has anyone ever promised you something, and made you really believe that they were going to keep their word and pull through? Perhaps it was a vow to pay you back the money that they've borrowed, or to lend a helping hand in some sort of way, or possibly they simply pledged to tag along with you to see the latest action movie. Whatever the case may be, as humans, we often make promises that we aren't capable of keeping, even when we've made the promise to ourselves. 


None of us like broken promises, and honestly, some of us really do mean well when we fix our mouths to offer our assistance but cant seem to make it, but then theirs the other percentage of people that never have any intentions of keeping their word. Those type of people just say stuff because they're in the heat of the moment, and when you call on them, they pull a "no call, no show", leaving us to feel let down yet again. 


I too had to learn the hard way and learn not to depend on anyone else for anything, because when we really want or look forward to something, we tend to put our trust in the limited powers of our human nature, failing to realize that the only one that we should be putting our trust in is the man upstairs. 


Its funny how when everyone else seems to fail us in our time of need, God is the only one that has our back, and the things he promises us, especially if we're in good standards with him, he will not be snail-like when it comes to fulfilling those vows. God doesn't lie, and If he said he's going to do something, he's going to do it. It might take a few days, weeks, months, and yes, even years for it to come to pass, and it might not even come the way we're expecting it to come, but that's when we have to be patient, because when we receive what he has promised, it will be worth the wait, and in our patience he'll give us something to fall back on until its time, so that our every need will met.


In life, people change, and promises are broken just as fast as they are made, but we have to take it as a lesson learned and really evaluate who and what we put our trust in, because the only one who seems to keep their promises anymore is God.

Thursday, December 4, 2014

Love

By Karen Ricketts


Love's impact on hearts
A medicine immeasurable by charts
Given and received freely if so desire
That more hearts will aspire


Love is affection, understanding, sacrifice
Starts with self then exercise
Can become contaminated easily 
Loses purity circumstantially


Greed, loneliness, selfishness
Love has its perpetrators and imitators
Masqueraders cloaked in lust
Leading many to distrust


Christ, love so pure and true 
Commanded us anew 
Love your neighbor as yourself
A boost to health if taken off the shelve


He promised to see us through
Christ says love and trust me and I'll teach you
A open heart and mind with much to lose
I'll try you Lord cause you heal all wounds

Wednesday, December 3, 2014

The Whole Truth And Nothing But The Truth

By Patricia McKinney
 

We all know that the truth is not always pretty, in fact it can be hurtful at times. But it's like a good dose of Castor Oil. Though the taste is unpleasant, and it's hard to swallow, it's good for your health.


I've always been a person that's "real" and honest when I'm called upon to give my opinion, or provide advice. My duty as a Counselor, Life Coach, Mentor, and Pastor requires this type of ethic and integrity. If you're looking for a sugary, candy coated, glazed over answer to your question, nine times out of ten, you're not going to find it here. I feel that the truth spoken gracefully, with wisdom, and love (even tough love at times) is like that good dose of castor oil, that's good for you, no matter how you slice it. It's especially important, when dealing with the people you love and care about, for example your children, a spouse, a friend, or someone in need of help. You'd rather not see them make mistakes that can be avoided.


I also appreciate the truth when it's presented to me, or I'm in need of help and advice from others. We don't always have all the answers. I believe as long as you live, you'll always be learning (if you're opened to it).

Unfortunately, many people don't share the same belief. To be a person that's real and truthful, that tries to be honest about important matters the majority of the time, comes a dime a dozen.


I've come to the conclusion that we live in a world of people that live their lives by covering up the truth or living a lie. They'll lie to the themselves or live in denial about their present situation, they'll pretend to be an Ivy League Scholar, they'll lie under oath, with their hand smack-dab in the middle of the Bible, even when their out on a date, or to their spouse. They'll lie on the job to avoid termination, and have someone else take the rap for something they've done. They'll cover up deep dark family secrets. Some will even portray an image of wealth and rather be seen driving a "2014" Limited Edition Mercedes Benz that they can't afford, while struggling to pay bills and keep food on the table. They'll put themselves in debt all to put up a bold front to people that might not even like them!


The effort that people put into masquerading is endless. Most of the time, people live in fear and cover up because the truth exposes their human weakness and flaws. They don't understand that by masquerading, they're living imprisoned without bars. Usually, people are taught to lie by those that set the example before them. We live in a world where men cover up their feelings and are taught not to cry or express themselves, because they'll be viewed as a wuss or a punk. 

We live in a world where Botox and Silicone are the number one rule. No one is content with what they have. They feel that a butt job, a boob job, or plastic surgery is the key to instantly change the unappealing, instead of working on or accepting the "parts we cannot change".

They live by cliches that tell you to "Fake it 'til you make it", "Never let 'em see you sweat", and so on and so forth. So they build their life on lies, until the truth is revealed and they're exposed, which is no laughing matter, especially if you're a well known icon living in the public eye.


To live life masquerading is like a full time job. You even have to work overtime to keep the lies going until the truth is revealed. So, ask yourself the question. Do I fit into this category? Have I been masquerading to appeal to people who really don't like me, or play a significant role in my life? If so, don't you think it's time to "let your hair down" and say "hey, this is the real me", a work in progress, a combination of good and bad, with weaknesses and flaws, in need of Gods help, and loving care. Stop trying to fit into everyone else's agenda. It's good for your own mental and spiritual well being to accept who you are. No one is perfect. Everyone has something that they don't like about themselves, even if they're not brave enough to admit it.


Who's said you have to live up to everyone else's standards anyway? Why spend what you can't afford to impress someone else, or be a walking boob or butt job to fit into societies, portrayal of the next top model? God created you just the way you are, to till your own ground and work it, to be the best that you can be, and maximize on that.