By Keesah Pelzer
Part of being a responsible adult is accepting that there are tons of things in life that we don't care to do, but we do them anyway because we have to.
Keeping your mouth shut about situations that need to be addressed is totally apart of the packaged deal.
I'm the type of person that's verbal-sometimes obsessively- especially when I'm in my feelings, or when I feel like someone is dead wrong, and they need to know. Like right now, I'm going through a rough patch in my life where it's completely hard and nearly impossible to communicate with certain people because of the tension that's in the air.
Sometimes we want people to see where we're coming from, and how they've caused hurt and pain in our lives, and they're not in a place to hear you out, or receive what it is that you're saying to them, so it gets ugly! Fingers are being pointed, old feelings erupt, and before you know it, you guys are screaming and arguing...then you can't function for the rest of the day because you keep replaying what happened over and over again in your head.
You think of even more rude, and disrespectful things you could have said to get under their skin after the fact, and continue to rehearse all day and sporadically through out the rest of the week about what you're going to say to those people when you see them.
People tend to push every single one of our buttons-all at once just to get us upset- most of the time I have to swallow my pride, and deal with it. I realized that I may never be granted with an opportunity to confront those people, and give them the most organic peace of my mind-no filter, no anything- but instead, I have to allow God to step in and take control.
It can be hard not to go off on people and always voice our opinion when someone is in the wrong, and I had to learn that I don't always have to react, or get out of character when it happens. I found that when I just suck it up, and let it go, it's not so bad either. No headaches, no stress, just staying focused on what's really supposed to be done.
Some people may never apologize for the wrong they've done, and it might take longer than expected to be healed, but the most important thing is to actually receive healing and allow God to work things out, no matter how much revenge we want, we have to remember that God can get them where it hurts the most.