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Wednesday, October 1, 2014

A Rude Awakening

By Angela Cox
Every now and then, I read a proverb that says, "Don't boast about tomorrow, for you do not know what a day may bring forth".  "Let another praise you, and not your own mouth, a stranger and not your own lips". (Proverbs 27: 1-2)   This proverb speaks in  loud volume by saying that no one knows what lies ahead, and that this journey in life can be unpredictable.  Only God know what awaits us, and what our future holds in store. It's also a reminder to be humble, because no human being on earth is infallible or born into perfection. 

Therefore, it's best that we never say never, because the very thing that we say we won't do, we can find ourselves doing or becoming. I had to learn this the hard way, especially being young and ignorant to the facts of life, it was easier to speak on things that I didn't understand.

When I was young, I was rudely awakened by a series of events that changed my world, and showed me that I was just as capable of falling into traps, temptations, and error just like every one else.  A few lessons were presented during my early teens, when a new school mate moved around the corner from where I lived. She was very pretty, but mature for her age, especially in physical appearance and mannerism, insomuch that she caught the attention of the parents in the neighborhood. She'd flaunt to the bus stop dolled up in mini skirts, pumps, big hair, and lipstick just to go to school.  While the rest of us teens and pre-teens were more conservatively dressed in ponytails, braids, a bang, a mushroom (you name it) and wouldn't  be caught dead showing off our stuff in public even if we wanted to. (unless we'd sneak around to do it).  Back then your appearance was a direct reflection of your parental upbringing, and your parents would not have you put them to shame!

Though this young lady stood out among the rest of us, she taught me a valuable lesson about judging  others, based off of some preconceived notion, and  that no one is perfect. You never know what goes on in someones personal life that causes them to act out of sorts, or the depth of pain in their heart.  It also showed me how cruel and merciless the world can be with no concern for your plight, even if you're young and lack understanding, you can still be an object of ridicule no matter how old you are.  (Some people will eat you alive with harsh words, for breakfast, lunch, and dinner).

It wasn't until I got to know her that I  realized  why she was so mature. I also found that she and I shared common ground although our lives were different, the bottom line ended in the same result.  I discovered that she was raised in a dysfunctional, single parent home, and forced to grow up before her time.  She also became a teen mother during her ninth grade year, which clearly says she was searching for love in all the wrong places. No one really knew what was in the depths of her heart but God, and no one knew her internal suffering due to the rejection and cruelty of others. But it wasn't until I experienced what she did that i gained a better understanding.

I learned that this proverb mentioned earlier holds true, and I've experienced and witnessed the reality that comes with "boasting about tomorrow". I made this mistake because I used to talk about what I'd never do or be, but I became just like the young lady that I judged.  A teen mother, looking for love in all the wrong places, an object of ridicule, a statistic, and stereotyped,  left in the merciless hands of the world to judge without even knowing anything about me.  

This acts as a reminder to show mercy to someone else, because one day you might need it for yourself.  It also teaches you to appreciate those that God sends into your life that have gone through "life's mill" that possess a level of understanding and compassion while exercising God's unconditional love toward you in spite of your flaws. The world can be a very cold place to live in, and we need God and a shoulder to lean on every now and then. (Dedicated to CEO & President Patricia D. McKinney, My Spiritual Mother, Teacher, & Mentor who has expressed God's love in my life and taught me to do the same). 

Tuesday, September 30, 2014

Lord Give Me Strength

By Karen Ricketts
When this road gets rough
When life demands you be tough 
Get on bended knees and call on your Father
Lord give me strength
When trouble invites problems to your door 
Threatening to overtake and pull you under
Turn to your one and only Savior 
Lord give me strength
When you suffer persecution, false accusations & adversity
Know that Jesus said it would be so
Thank Him for His blood that was shed for you 
Lord give me strength
When it seems the enemy himself
Glares from the cubicle right next to you
Sleep in your house or even fathered your kids
Lord give me strength
When joy forgot to show up in the morning
But sorrow & pain made themselves comfortable
Give God thanks always
Lord give me strength
When you struggle to even
 Get out of bed and face another day
Know that Jesus died so you can have life
Lord give me strength
You wake me with the Breath of life each day
To not forfeit the victory you already gave me
But to fight the good fight of faith even in affliction
Lord give me strength

Monday, September 29, 2014


We would like to wish the beautiful CEO & President of Women In Transition, Patricia McKinney, a very Happy Birthday and many more to come!

Friday, September 26, 2014

A Rose Among Thorns

By Patricia McKinney

One of the most fascinating things that I've ever seen is the rose that dwells among thorns. I guess because the two are in such contrast to each other, it raises the question, how can something so beautiful be produced from something that's so rough and thorny? How can  "thorns" that are so harsh in appearance, be beneficial to something so delicate?
I found upon researching, that thorns (also known as prickles) on a roses stem, though they may be harsh in appearance and are prickly to the touch, serve the wonderful purpose of protecting this delicate flower from predators to extend it's own life, by warding off animals that will destroy the rosebush.
Isn't it amazing how nature can symbolize things that happen in our daily lives? Sometimes God uses the smallest things to teach us life lessons, and serve as reminders that all things serve a purpose. He also shows us the beauty among things that appear to be unappealing, that are opposite and contrary to our own way of thinking. I once heard someone say that they thought life was all about having it all (without the trials), and they never knew what it was like to struggle. But they found that their tough times were beneficial, and they gained insight, courage, and strength during those times.

I know from my own experience that life may seem to produce "thorns" at times, those things that feel and appear to be harsh and uncomfortable, or contrary to what we're accustomed to, but they're beneficial to our growth and maturity, and they aide in producing the beauty within, like the rose. Sometime, it can be difficult to perceive that a contrary life experience can be beneficial until you meet someone that's in a condition that's worse than your own.
During my "thorny" times, I learned the most valuable lessons. I learned the character of people, I learned to count my blessings, and the essence of what life is really all about. During my "thorny" times, I developed good character and strength, and wisdom to protect me from predators (things  and people that were not good for me), like the rose that uses the thorns to protects its own life. I've learned that our thorny times come to develop and preserve us, to give us wisdom, and appreciation for what we do have, and to count our blessings.

Thursday, September 25, 2014

Signs And Wonders...

By Keesah Pelzer
Sometimes we look for signs and wonders in the deepest of things, but not all the time does God need to take that route to get his point across. He can use something as simple as a billboard on the highway to encourage you to keep going, or he can speak through a sweet and innocent child while they're playing with their toys, and all the while, the child has no idea what they're saying, but it's purpose was for you to hear the message. God can use a single line in a song that has absolutely nothing to do with him, but it can bring confirmation and reassurance to you in your time of need.
There is no denying that God is indeed in the deep, but speaking from personal experiences, he often shows us things in simplicity to the point where even a toddler can comprehend.

Wednesday, September 24, 2014

The Grass Is Not Always Green

By Karen Ricketts

As people we sometimes feel that if we had a lot of money and became rich, or if we had higher cheek bones, was better looking, owned designer clothes, able to take vacations anywhere in the world etc.our problems would be solved. If we're born short, we desire to be taller, we want a different shape than we're born with, different eyes, mouth, legs and the list goes on and on.

We feel that having what we desire will make us happy and fulfilled as human beings, but in reality if the sky opened up and everything we ever desired was dropped at our feet, most of us wouldn't know how to handle it and we'd realize that the thing we desired the most only brought us temporary satisfaction, and go right back to the wish list.

This thought of the ideal looking person leads to looking up and admiring individuals whose looks and lives seems fulfilled on the outside, but appearances can be very deceiving. That beautiful and popular classmate that shops at the mall at least twice a week, and appears to have such a wonderful life, in reality she sees herself as ugly and instead of getting love from her parents she gets money instead to go shopping. The physical shell is important, but no matter what it looks like or how it's adorned and dressed up, if issues are festering inside, that shell will corrode and eventually collapse.

Fulfillment is one of those intangible things that money can't buy. It cannot be attained by acquiring materialistic things or through plastic surgery to change what you look like. There is no substitute for self love and self acceptance no matter your lot in live. While ideally we would prefer to be tall, rich and handsome, there's nothing wrong with being short, striving for success and average looking.

Change starts on the inside, including self acceptance and self love. This type of change though it takes time, when it occurs it's lasting and fulfilling. You will want to thrive and work hard to be the best you, you can be. While this change is still on-going in my life, I thank God that I now realize that the grass is not always greener on the other side.

Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Cat Fights And Foolishness

By Angela Cox
We've all heard of how we women can be "Catty". In other words, cattiness refers to being territorial, controlling, complainers, that knit pick over the most minial, insignificant things that really don't matter. It refers to being lovers of drama, more than lovers of peace. Another form of "Catty behavior" is similar to a cat that purrs around a bowl of milk, and refers to something that a cat is attracted to or desires. It's identical to a woman that tries to get close to one of her female counterparts because she's coveting what she has, be it goods, clothes, status, information, or their man.

I used to think that the word "Cattiness" when refering to women was seasoned with critizism, tapered off with a bit of exaggeration, and a word used to bash the female species, or used in a stereotypical form.  Eventhough I knew there were many truths to it, I didn't think that most of the female species was guilty of doing "the cat walk" and refusing to change.

It wasn't until I was placed right in the center of many female counterparts that the word "Cattiness" came to life.  I recently became a part of a womens program that's used as a short term vehicle to help propel women to accomplish their personal goals, be it education, housing, employment, etc. This particular program is very fast paced, and everyone is given an alloted amount of time, or less than a "boot camps" time span of about 2 months to accomplish certain goals. Which means that every minute is crucial, and it's vital that time is used wisely. 

Upon my entry into this program, I assumed that every participant would be focused with tunnel vision in a rush to complete their task because they only have 2 months to do so.  Boy was I wrong.  Eventhough all women were between the ages of 25 and older (most in the 40's and beyond) I thought they'd know better and conduct themselves in a fairly mature manner. However, I found within this short timeframe, that the majority had already lost focus before they got started. They formed cliques, and spent vast amounts of time complaining about each other, backstabbing, backbiting, meddling in other's matters. Some were very opinionated, giving advise without practicing it themselves, attempting to clean up someone elses backyard instead of their own,  plotting, scheming, and stealing. Others operated out of a superiority/inferiority complex, being full of pride and boastful, looking down their noses at others eventhough they were "in the same boat" (same predicament). Some were cold hearted, inconsiderate, and the words "personal space" was like speaking a foreign language.

I found through my own experience that most women are emotionally driven, (of which I've been guilty among many other things described here) and there are very few that are seasoned, mature, and emotionally consistant.  Immaturity doesn't discriminate because of age (remember everyone here is close to thirty and way over!) I learned that you can't dwell among others and see their flaws without looking in the mirror and seeing your own.  That the very things that can be a "turn off" are to be looked at closely to make sure your not guilty of doing the same.  

In my case, this experience helps me to be conscious of my own character, and see clearly that you can't change the cattiness or character of those around you, but you can change "you".  This taught me to keep "wisdom" in view.  Like King Solomon  said, it's better too dwell in the corner of a house top than with a contentious and angry woman, which says that no one wants to be around "cattiness" for long (or at all), and a woman can bring on her own self ruin by operating out of it. 


Monday, September 22, 2014

Stay In Your Own Lane

By Patricia McKinney

When I was growing up, the parent- to- child relationship was so different than it is now days. It used to be that if a child even thought of taking part in an adult conversation, they were immediately reprimanded.
Reason being, the adult knew the child was not mentally ready for the adult world, or possessed the attributes and capabilities to take on such a hefty responsibility. They knew that a child couldn't grasp adult concepts or reasoning, and it showed a sign of disrespect for authority when a child got out of line. The adult knew it was highly important for a child to remain in their child like state, for the sake of their own growth and development. So they were quick to put them in their place and advised them in so many words to "stay in their own lane". But as the child goes from adolescents to a teenager, their needs change and they need an opened line of communication to keep them going.
Remember when we were young, how some of our parents even neighbors would give us precautionary warnings so we wouldn't make the wrong moves, or go before our time and make a mess of our lives, (or make the same mistakes they made) and affect everyone else, but we'd do it anyway? Back then, adults had more time on their hands to get involved and they were more in tuned and concerned with the young than they are today. Now days adults are tied up in various issues of their own, which makes it more difficult to allow them with the time or space to be involved in the lives of our youth, leaving them wide open to the world's devices.
Now days, our young people are dealing with a totally different "monster" than we did when we were growing up. They're no longer able to stay in their child like state because they're force fed societies desire for pleasure, lust, greed, and heinous acts. We live in a merciless society that doesn't consider the young. Therefore, our young people need sound minded adults that they can communicate with, but also those that can identify with them, to keep them grounded.
I've met many adults and know of professionals (that possess the title on paper only, with no experience), meaning they're in the "wrong lane" (a.k.a the wrong area of expertise). Many of them don't have genuine concern for others, but their profession feeds their ego instead of meeting the objective and getting to the root issues in the lives of people. They haven't been wounded in area's of their own lives to identify with other's, and they'd rather write a prescription than use the good old fashion remedy of pouring out their soul to help someone else.

That's why we need much love within our families, and an opened line of communication with our children. We need God, and good morals, and structure within our homes, and the good old fashioned remedy, called "dialogue". I'm glad that before I become a counselor and mentor that I had been wounded in area's of my life, because there was a hidden treasure within those wounds to effectively help others.

Friday, September 19, 2014

Out Of The Rain

I was born into
 By Karen Ricketts
I was born into a world of sin
Innocent I was not knowing what was within
Gradually I came to see
That sin was growing up inside of me
Out In the world I’m flung
Doing everything under the sun

Hurt grew, pain grew, don’t forget lust and pride too
Struggling now to do what’s right
Growing tired and weary of the fight
Waiting for the moment I can exhale
But my strength was to no avail

Searched all the low places for a way out
Only digging myself deeper and deeper in dirt
Getting my palm read here and my fortune told there
But my money was their only care

Then one day He who sits in the High place
Decided to spare my life
Because He had deposited something in me that was right
He’s the door I was looking for all along
But his adversary had me in his grip stringing me along
Jesus called me in out of the rain
To a place of shelter and safety in Him and life once again

Thursday, September 18, 2014

Women And Their High Demands

By Patricia McKinney

Just about every young girl has been taught that one day she'll grow up and be married over the course of her life time.  She's usually instilled with such teaching by the women in her family or other female influences that are a "voice" in her life, either good or bad.  It's engrained in us that one day we'll find "Mr. Right" or someone equivelant to a "Knight In Shining Armor", that will sweep us off our feet like some Princess from a fairytale, and that we should never settle for anything less. 

Very rarely are we "schooled" on the realistic expectations, facts, and naked truth that comes with "holy matrimony", nor are we given a manual with the rules of engagement on how to keep a man when we get him. Not too many people tell you that the man in your life will make mistake and so will you.  They don't supply you with instructions that say, "No party should have control over the other, and there's no Big I's and Little U's in a marriage, that compromise is necessary, and family members are not to be included in decision making, etc.   

Unfortunately, those responsible for this information don't come with all the facts needed prior to marriage, and they portray that our husband should be some super human being without flaws, therefore we'll set our standards too high.   Normally, women that have been hurt or failed horribly in relationships will set unrealistically high standards so she won't get hurt again, and they teach others to do the same. Many women even look to societies view of what marriage and relationships should be and it's the worst example to follow, because relationships now days only last a few months to a year. If it's any longer than that, it might be an "opened relationship" which permits both parties to do everything under the sun without true committment. Other than that, the relationship will be "one sided" meaning the man or woman is the "Lord" over the other, and it ends in ruin because the demands in the relationship are set too high.

Now days, I often find especially among the more afluent, black "Six figure sisters" that's educated or graduated at the top of her class, and worked or even slept her way to the top, set these rediculous standards for a man that she's not even capable of fulfilling herself! She wants the Six Million Dollar man, that's 6 foot 4, with a six pack of ab's, that'll throw rose petals down at her feet when she walks through the door, celebrate every holiday, birthday, valentines day in "honor of her", while she's allowed to do and say what she wants. She lives in a place that I call "fantasy island", that doesn't exist, and that's why she ends up single. 

They want someone to be perfect but they're not even domestic at home (meaning the cooking or cleaning type).  They carry "baggage" from the last relationship and he has to suffer for what someone else did.  First of all, a man want's someone that can fulfill his needs and desires too.  He doesn't want a relationship with someone he feels inferior too, or feel belittled in, like he's some slave on a plantation! His worth is just as valuable as the womans, and God never intended for one to be greater than the other, they are to be equal and inseparable. 

I recently heard a young man say that Black women have the highest rate of singleness among women of other races, why is that?  He also mentioned that when a black woman become successful, it comes with a negative attitude thats a turn off to a man, and they have a double standard that says everything he has belongs to her, but when she gets something he's not entitled to any of it. That shows the very reason why many women are single, and will stay that way for the rest of their life. They don't show that they value the man, and some will get a good man and ruin it because they're not marriage material, or willing to do their part. 

Again, God never created man to be less than a woman, neither did he create the woman to be less than the man.  He made it clear that the only one that's the epitome of perfection and love is Him, that all human beings are flawed, and created equal. So if your one of the single women that fits bill of the "six figured sister, or the woman with such high standards, do a recap and take a judicious evaluation of yourself.  Nine times out of ten, you are not even able to live up to the standards that you place on someone else, and to have such high expectations is unrealistic. 

Wednesday, September 17, 2014

Humble Pie...Vengeance Is Mine

By Keesah Pelzer
When situations in life arise that we have no control over, it makes us feel like our hands have been tied together,  not permitting us to make moves how we want to make moves. It's a hard pill to swallow when you have to be humble enough to allow someone that doesn't have the capability of beating you naturally or spiritually, talk down on you and try to bully you or run the show, all because they don't like how you do things.
Speaking from a realistic perspective, we sometimes want to cause physical harm to others that have harmed us, be it how they've treated us, how they've talked about us, or even what they've done  to our children (undeservingly), especially if its been going on for years. Sometimes we don't want to hear "just pray" or "wait on the Lord" because to us, he's taking too long, and we want to take matters in to our own hands.

When you've been raised by the streets (like myself), naturally you're a fighter, and its always "eye for an eye, tooth for a tooth"  and when that's been instilled in you, your first reaction is pay back. They hurt you and  you want them to reap what they've sown, so you sit and think of all the ways you can give them a taste of their own medicine, but with an extra dosage. I know first hand that Its painful to look at someone and clearly see them getting away with "murder", and there's nothing you can do about it.

Here we are trying to dot all of our i's and cross all of our t's, yet they're the ones that are belligerent and reckless, and they do unimaginable things to us, and it seems like God is just letting them slide, and although we may want to act like-minded like the individuals who've caused us pain, it really would be in our best interest to continue to eat humble pie and allow God do the rest, because every dog has its day, and once we get that in our minds, the easier things will become for us.
Deuteronomy 32:35 "I will take vengeance; I will repay those who deserve it. In due time their feet will slip. Their day of disaster will arrive, and their destiny will overtake them."

Tuesday, September 16, 2014

Older Women In Competition With Younger Women

By Angela Cox

My how time flies.  It seems like just yesterday, I was in my early twenties and now I'm forty-two. But in my book, age is just a number, and it doesn't seem like I've aged much at all, just in experience. Of course as you age you don't keep the baby-butt skin that you used to have and you may have a little pouch after birthing several children, get some gray hair, but that's all a part of the change. But one of the things that I've witnessed during the process of aging, is older women in competition with younger women. The effort and energy they waste focusing on someone else with the desire to relive their glory days is astonishing. Sometime it's a pathetic and a shameful sight to see.  It reminds me of Cinderella when the clock struck twelve, and she left her slipper and  the ball was over.  (Let it go!) 

Older women that compete with younger women  normally act out of insecurity, jealousy, or that fact that they've never lived their own life and glory days to the fullest.  They're unhappy with their present circumstances and lack fulfillment and excitement.  Usually, older women won't waste time competing with someone ratchet, but they'll usually compete with someone that's either beautiful in their eyes, confident, very stylish and vibrant, or a productive beacon of society.  Women express themselves in different ways, some are good at hiding competition and how they feel with smiles or encouraging words, while other's will talk about you or gossip instead. 

During my early twenties, I had an encounter with a woman almost twice my age.  I was a member of a women's group at the time, and I recall this particular woman in the group that didn't take to me very well.  She and I had no prior history or former ties, we were complete strangers when we met. However, at most meetings, she'd be very curt or anti-social and her body language spoke a thousand words.   As time progressed, everyone in the group became more familiar with each other and one day her feelings came to the forefront. She told me, " I remember when I was your age, I used to model, I was slim and so on and so forth.   Low and behold, there was the punchline, her curtness and body language spoke volume by what she said. She expressed that she was unhappy within, and she wished she had the glory from her younger days. Later on, she shared the pictures taken during her days of modeling. She was a very pretty, stylish, petite woman and had not changed much at all with age, only her weight. It was very obvious that she was unhappy and she'd express feelings of jealousy and insecurity as she continued to deal with the other women in the group. At times she be very critical, shooting down other's idea's.


From this experience among  many others, I've learned that women focus too much on others. In my eyes, the world is huge, which means no matter how old you get as long as you have health and strength, there's always something productive to do to keep you going.  I have an eighty old father and I kid you not, I still believe that he turned forty on his birthday.  His conversation reveals that he has the heart of a young man half his real age. Not long ago, he told me "age is just a number"   and his life expresses his belief.  He's still very independent and keeps very busy.  He works, goes to the gym, does yard work, loves sports, takes trips, he's in a choir and had remarried not many years ago, and brags about how the young ladies still have a thing for him, and how they throw themselves at him.(LOL)  I believe as women, we need to adopt this slogan  "age is just a number", and this type of youthful heart as our own. It will help keep you vibrant and alive even when your aging, so you won't have the need to compete with someone younger, but have something to feel good about, and have a style that's all your own

Monday, September 15, 2014

Don't Be Ashamed

By Keesah Pelzer

We've all done things in our lives that we're not too proud of, and as a human, I've definitely done things that I was totally ashamed of as well, but realistically speaking, who hasn't? Sometimes we feel as though we're the only ones who have done wild and crazy things, and made not so good decisions. We've even allowed people to make us feel this way. 

Out of a trillion things that I was humiliated about, having three kids by two different guys (whom I am no longer with), was number one on my list. I didn't feel like explaining, and I didn't want anyone to know, so I tried hide my pregnancy from some of my family members and social media. I just knew they were going to have a lot to say about the fact that my two younger girls are only fourteen months apart, but I could only hide it for but so long, and before I knew it, here came the questions! "Are you preggo? Ohhh, you're having another baby? Well, I see you aren't wasting any time!" It was so embarrassing. It wasn't just the fact that I was pregnant again that I was completely ashamed of, it was the struggle that came along with it. Going to WIC appointments, being a state recipient, and having to learn the proper way to raise them according to Gods standards. It took for one of my sisters from Women In Transition to share her story about how she struggled being a young mom and having three kids back to back. In that moment, I felt a sense of relief to know that I wasn't the only one that was ashamed of something so minor. 

I was at McDonalds the other day, and I ran into this girl named Asia that I used to go to school with. In all of about five minutes, we played catch up and gave brief summaries of our lives within the past six years. I told her that I have three kids now, and when I said that, she looked at me and said, "What were you thinking?" Now normally, I would shy away from answering questions like that, because I was too timid and embarrassed of my situation to respond, but I looked her square in her face and told her that a lot of people have asked me that question, and to be honest, having an abortion was not on the menu. I told her, that people are quick to judge and look down on, and turn their noses up at people like myself because we have multiple children, but those are the same people that have platinum memberships with the abortion clinic just so they can keep up with the Joneses. I meant everything that I said to her, and I didn't think twice about hurting her feelings, or coming off as unpleasant, and I could tell by the look on her face that I did just that. What gives her the right to ask such a silly question, and being that she has two kids of her own? You would think that she knows better. 

Indeed it gets hard a lot of the times, but I chose to give my children a fighting chance, even keeping in mind that there was a strong possibility that I'd be raising them alone. I myself, have had two abortions in the past, and after my last one (about six years ago), I was so sad, and I always wondered what would that child have looked like, would it be a girl or a boy, and what type of personality would they have? I look at my girls now, and thank God for them, and I try for a second to imagine how life would be if I would have chosen to abort them. It took me a while to not let others make me feel less than because I chose to keep my kids, and after a while, I didn't have time to be ashamed. I realized that I needed Gods help and guidance so that I could be the best parent possible to my girls, and if I was too ashamed to open up about it, how was I going to receive the help that I needed? God told me that there was no reason to be embarrassed about the things that I've been through in my life, because my testimony can help someone else, even if its something lowdown, dirty and shameful. You'd be surprised at how many people have been through the same things as us. 

Sunday, September 14, 2014

Traits of a Beautiful Woman. The Transformation of Patricia McKinney

       CEO & President
       Patricia McKinney
Proverbs 14:1 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
A Woman's heart should be so hidden in God that a Man has to seek him to find her
Max Lucado
Proverbs 31:26 She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. 
Proverbs  14:1 The wisest of women builds her house, but folly with her own hands tears it down.
God is looking for imperfect men and women who have learned to walk in moment-by-moment dependence on the Holy Spirit. Christians who have come to terms with their inadequacies, fears, and failures. Believers who have become discontent with ‘surviving’ and have taken the time to investigate everything God has to offer in this life.- Charles Stanley



Friday, September 12, 2014

Identity Theft

By Patricia McKinney

Have you ever known someone that wanted to be you so bad that they'd try to go to the ends of the earth to destroy you?  I mean, they were obsessed to the point that in their delusional mind, they believe they can be you, better than you can be yourself? Only to realize that everything they attempted to do to bring you down backfired.

A person that's obsessed with your life will go as far as reaching out to people from your past that you don't even deal with anymore, and in some cases never dealt with at all.  But their "stalkish" ways gives them a false sense of connection to you, by keeping in touch with people from your past. like your associates, friends, or family members.

They're so infatuated with your life that they'll try to mimic or portray being "you". But the deception about trying to mimic someone else's life is a set up for disappointment because that person that's being copied may no longer be in the same place in their life, or they're not doing the same things that they did before. They may have moved forward and connected with new people, places and things which causes them to change the whole dynamic of who they are as a person and what they do.  Which means the obsessed person can never keep up.

Do you remember the story about Satan being kicked out of heaven?  It all started with Satan (Lucifer) wanting to be like the Most High God.  He wanted what God had, he wanted to be better than God because his heart was full of jealousy, envy, malice, and lust.  These are the same factors that drive people to want what someone else has, and it's a very dangerous place be in because they'll become consumed in someones life. In a place like this, you'll find that you'll no longer focus on who you are, your own likes and dislikes or desires, but on that of another.

This is not what God desires, but that we be content with what we have and who you are.  God desires that we become who he's designed us to be as individuals because we are fearfully and wonderfully made.

I John 2:16 ) says, "For everything in the world - the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life - comes not from the Father, but from the world."