By Patricia McKinney
What is convenience? Convenience is defined as fitness or suitability for performing an action or fulfilling a requirement, something conducive to comfort or ease, a suitable or convenient time (at your convenience) freedom from discomfort : ease, accommodation.
Remember the cliche that says "one hand washes the other?" Do you recall the late music artist, Teddy Pendergrass that made the old school song titled, "When Somebody Loves You Back?" I love the part of the song that said, "not 70/30, not 60/40, I'm talkin' bout' 50/50 love, yeah! Now we live in a world that knows nothing about either of these percentage brackets. If your in the 60/40 bracket of love now days, your doing pretty good and that's sad. The percentage bracket does not just apply to relationships only, but also friendships and family. I've discovered that many people settle for unhealthy imbalances when dealing with people ,and if one party has a giving heart, they don't really expect anything in return. Not to say that you should give to want something back, but if your always the one giving in a relationship, to a friend, or family member, but you don't get anything in return, that's what you call "CONVENIENCE". In this case scenario, it means it's convenient for that person (or persons) to be in a relationship with you because it's accommodating them. It's comfortable, and suitable for them because they're receiving all the goods, whether it be love, respect, time, money, sex, trips and vacations, the good life etc, without having to contribute.
Many men and women go for the "okey doke" just because they love somebody. I learned that if you keep it up, you'll end up broke and highly disappointed in the long run. I challenge you to take a look at those around you, and keep in mind that every marriage and relationship is not always "fitly joined together", some need to be put asunder! You may just be a victim of "CONVENIENCE" and accommodating someone else at your own expense.