Women In Transition...Where Change Begins

Women In Transition...Where Change Begins

Friday, March 27, 2015

Too Much Too Soon

By Angela Cox 

I once read a story about the "The Prodigal Son", a young man that wanted to receive his inheritance way before his time, meaning before he was mentally ready and wise enough to handle it. (He reminds me of a teenager that says, "I can't wait until I get 18, so I can move out of here, and do what I want!)  Anyway....

One day he decided to go to his father with "his hands out" to ask for his fare share of his inheritance, but instead of his father saying "No" to his sons request, he gave  him what he asked for. 

Once this young man received his inheritance, he anxiously set out to venture and splurge aimlessly until his inheritance was all gone, leaving him broke and hungry, with no one to care for him or give him anything at all. After reality set in, and he came to his senses, he decided to swallow his pride, and return to his fathers house to plead for mercy and forgiveness with the hope of being accepted again.  Fortunately, he was accepted with opened arms and loved by his father as if he never left home or made such a careless mistake. 

As we can see here, the prodigal, like myself and most human beings that walk the face of the earth, possess a simple character flaw that's called being anxious and sometimes we want things that we're not mentally,  physically, or spiritually ready for or able to handle. We want too much too soon. 

For example, we rush into relationship's without the slightest whim of the persons true character or intentions concerning us, or we give too much of ourselves too soon. We share all of our personal business with people that are not mature enough to keep it confidential, and we share our deepest secrets with those that will misjudge us and cast seeds of condemnation. Some will even use what we tell them (especially in relationships) as ammunition during a heated argument to remind us of our past with the attempt to bring our spirit down. It's only after our anxious decisions have left us in shambles,  and we walk away feeling empty, worn out and broken inside that we finally come to our senses. It's not until we fall hard, that we can recognize that we all stand in need of Guidance from Someone far more wise than we are, and that's God. 

There is a Heavenly Father we can turn to that cares. He knows that we like the prodigal son, lack wisdom or think that we know what's best when in actuality we don't. He knows that we are flawed beings in need of change from within. But he also gave us a free will and allows us to go through things to teach us life lessons (without taking them away from us). He allows it so we might learn from being anxious and making poor decisions. Sometimes it's not until we've lost everything or squandered good things away that we acknowledge our need for him, and that our way may not be the right way, but He knows what's best for us.

Thursday, March 26, 2015

Kept By God

By Patricia McKinney 

The increase in criminal activity, sexual crimes and other wrong doings, along with ethic violations from both organizations and individuals alike indicates how deep morality continues to decline in today's world. Whatever region of the world you're from chances are that you have developed and practiced the same moral standards and guidelines based on how you were raised. 

We adopt the cultural practices of our ancestors and are influenced by what we observe from others around us. The vast majority of people for generations have strayed away from the way the Lord truly intended for us to live our everyday life. I realize from the many things I've done in my life both the good and bad, that my decisions were guided and influenced by my culture, experience, emotions, and everything else devoid of Godly influence. I went to church infrequently, but I knew there was a God and heard about his commandments many times. However, there were no righteous role models that I saw. What I did see were people doing good some of the time and doing wrong some of the time as man continued to tweak, bend and break God's rules to suit his own purpose. 

It wasn't until I came into the knowledge of Jesus Christ and began to believe his word that I was able to see how deep in sin I was. I stole, lied, cheated, fornicated, drank, partied, was in adulterous relations, and the list goes on and on. All I did was indicative of even deeper internal issues and a messed up internal dialogue. Without Christ I would have continued to live my life how I deemed fit, making decisions I wanted to make, without realizing there is a right and a wrong way to live. 

Even some of the decisions I made, might be right in man's eye but to God they completely went against his laws, ordinances and teachings. God kept me in my ignorance, and even while I was deliberately sinning in so many different ways, and he continues to keep me today. He strengthens me to fight against the cultural and internal wrongs or darkness that seeks to lead me astray. 

God can and will keep you regardless of whatever cultural or personal moral standards you were once a part of when you truly seek to live his way and to do your best to uphold and follow his laws. He will strengthen and guide you through life's issues, giving you hope, peace and joy that no one else can give you even in tough times.

Wednesday, March 25, 2015


"In this world, if you're not persistent about what you want or what you'll stand for in life, you won't get anywhere. People will say no to you sometimes just because they can, and it doesn't matter if your life depends on it or not. It doesn't even matter if it's someone you know or a complete stranger. I've personally experienced this. Persistence is a big word, and it takes courage to be persistent in any situation. Persistence can take you a long way. That's how it is in life and that's how it is in God as well. Seeking God and serving Him requires daily persistence. Don't allow anyone to block or stop you because you never know what doors can open in your life through your persistency"- Karen Ricketts

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Miracles Do Happen

By Patricia McKinney 

What is a miracle? A miracle is described as a surprising and welcoming event that is not explicable by natural or scientific laws, and is therefore considered to be the work of a divine agency. Notice the meaning of the word "miracle" is something that's described as being "divine", which means something beyond human ability. 

I've heard many people say that they're in control of their own destiny? What do you think? I believe that the human being is nothing short of a miracle. For example, consider the very breath of life that we breathe: does a human being have control over this function?(aside from life support, which is also limited to technical/human ability). Does one have control over life or death? The list of questions can go on, but to take a close look at the matter realistically, the fact stands that miracles do happen. 

These miracles can also play a part in everyday life, and in our encounters with people. Have you ever met someone that you had absolutely nothing in common with, but you ended up being the best of friends or your encounter with them developed into a beautiful exchange? Sometimes we limit ourselves by the way we think, and close doors to the most beautiful occurrence's. 

During the time of my youth, up until my late twenties, I lived what many call the "hard knocked life" (the street life). My experiences as a child which included molestation and rape, left me open to alot inner turmoil that spiraled into my teens, all the way through my late twenties. I knew first hand what it was like to live a life victimized by abuse, hardship, homelessness, drug addiction, prostitution, rejection, incarceration, and I never imagined anything positive happening in my future because of my present circumstances. 
But one day a miracle happened. I prayed, and told God that I was tired of the lifestyle I was living, and I desired a change in my life. My prayers were both heard and answered. People were sent in my path to help me, and they came to speak life into my situation. This let me know that God heard my prayers by answering. It showed me that he was merciful and loved me, but also had a plan for my life. I was also given the inner strength by God's grace and power to break the pattern of addiction, and habits that were harmful to my physical, mental and spiritual well being. I regained my sobriety and started a new path with purpose. I've been blessed with a husband and beautiful children, my own businesses, and organizations. My life experience has also given me compassion to touch the lives of others, and share the love that's been expressed toward me. I've also been blessed in my own personal life with a lot of love, joy, peace and fulfillment. 
Now my life is totally different than I'd ever imagined it would have been over twenty years ago. I'm meeting new people that I'd never thought I'd meet, and developing new relationships that bring fulfillment. They would have been my opposite had I met them in the previous years. 
I'm sharing my story with you to encourage your heart, so you too can open your eyes, your heart, and mind to see God's miracles that happen everyday. Sometimes the most miraculous things happen when we least expect them, and they take place in the smallest things. But you have to believe. 

Monday, March 23, 2015

Be You

By Keesah Pelzer 

If you look around today, all you see is the same thing. The same clothes, the same shoes, and the same hair. The same thoughts, the same behavior and actions, and even the same consequences. The problem is, no one knows who they really are, so it seems easier to take on someone else's character, instead of discovering who we are as a person. We all see someone that's different or doing something differently, and we can receive inspiration from that, but to completely "copy and paste" someone else's trademark (so to speak), is beyond what they would call "swagger jacking".

In most cases we feel who we are as a person is not enough, so we take on this alter ego, in order to even out our inadequacies. Rarely do you find someone that's bold enough to let their uniqueness shine through, and not try to ride someone else's wave. We tend to shy away from displaying our true flavor, so we'll hold back on being creative, and diverse, all because we're not sure how its going to come out, or if others will respect it. We're scared that we'll be rejected and labeled as a "weirdo" or a "freak", or even for someone to tell us that they don't like our ideas.

Finding who you really are is anything but easy, because in all actuality, we're not the ones that's doing the uncovering. We have to allow God to strip us from the old, so He can reveal what's been hidden on the inside of us. In simpler terms, its kind of like a needle in the hay stack. The hay, being all the things we need to be purged of, which is surrounding the needle, who we really are (possessing the potential to be sharper). 

I have yet to find myself, and to be quite honest, I have a long way to go in order to tap into what  has been placed on the inside of me, but I have a better understanding that it doesn't come by picking up another major in school, or wearing designer clothes, because when all of those things are stripped from us, we still remain unidentified. Finding who you are comes from being refined, and purified by God, and to do away with everything that we have created ourselves to be. How else will you be able to be you?

Sunday, March 22, 2015


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Friday, March 20, 2015

Chasing The Wind

By Patricia McKinney

As children, we all have big dreams of  who we'd like to become.  We're big dreamers without limits or inhibitions. But as we get older, reality sets in, and we develop more realistic views about what we can attain, and what it takes to get there.  Especially if we've matured and developed a  professional mindset, we'll know first hand that anything "fly-by-night", "half-baked", or "incomplete" (especially in business) won't last very long, or go anywhere. We realize that failures and set-backs are all a part of the process. 

Unfortunately, many adults never lose their child like mentality when it comes to chasing a dream.  They've become what I call "pipe dreamers", meaning they live life in an illusion, a world of make believe, with big aspirations but  unrealistic views of what it takes to attain them. They dream big, yet they think small when it comes to professionalism.  They lack a spirit of excellence (meaning they don't take pride in what they do) and the evidence shamefully shows in their product and how they operate. Many business owners and "pipe dreamers" don't keep up with the time, current events, and the latest according to the new era's standard, so they become irrelevant. They try to hold onto something that's long gone or try to relive their glory days, by chasing the wind (rekindling a dream that no longer exists) and a venture that no longer works. They've become like silver that's lost its shine, yet they try to keep hope alive anyway.

Have you ever met a self acclaimed business owner that always talks about their new venture and how it's on the horizon? They even brag about upcoming events, showcases and how business is "booming",  but there's no evidence to provide the proof, and it never materializes. If their business does show any "signs of life" or that it actually does exist at all, it's so unprofessional and "half baked" that its unrecognizable as a business.   All you can see is outdated products and marketing materials, old business cards with scratched out names and phone numbers, and an old website from 2003?  They fit the bill of the dog that has the bark louder than it's bite.   Remember the song by James Brown, titled "Talking Loud and Saying Nothing?  It's the same with the business owner that's chasing the wind.  They speak big words, and have big dreams, yet these words and reality don't match.

In order to have anything worth value in life, whether it be a business, organization, group, etc., it not only takes hard work, but also a spirit of excellence to draw people.  As a business owner, CEO and President of my own Private Foundation and businesses, I can honestly say that it's both the professionalism and excellence spirit that draws people.  What is an excellent spirit?  It's good character, and professionalism in how you deal with people, and how you operate as a business.  One with an excellent spirit takes pride in what they do, and their presentation is at it's highest standard.  When a prospect, customer, or client comes to you, they'll know that they'll get good quality service and the best of care because of your level of expertise.

I've come to the conclusion that many business owners are out of place, meaning they want to have something to call their own, but they don't fit the bill of owning and running a successful business or organization. 

I know many people that started  businesses and ventured into new territory in their early twenties.  During that time,  they were young, vibrant, and  innovative,  hot off the press, and in demand.  They were like shining stars in their profession, like celebrities of the business world.  But as time passed, and a new era set in, they became irrelevant to the new generation. They became like salt that lost it's savor. But instead of recognizing their state, they refused to change professions or pass the baton to the new generation by teaching them what they know in order to succeed.  Many people have a fear that they won't be important anymore if they let go of their glory days and venture off into something new, and that fear keeps them "chasing the wind", which they'll never be able to grasp. The key to success lies in the path of newness, by  trying something that's unfamiliar and getting your feet wet in an area that's never been discovered before. Sometimes this is the only way to find your niche, and where you best fit. It's the way to find your true God given gift or talent that leads to success, and helps others also.  As long as we live on this earth, change always presents itself but it's up to you to step into it, and stop "chasing the wind." Besides, who wants to be "critically acclaimed" or best known for cheap talk without the evidence of proven success?" 

Thursday, March 19, 2015

Evil Upstairs

By Keesah Pelzer

There are all types of everyday, ordinary people who appear to be normal on the surface, but have a closet full of skeletons. Some may dress well, some may be in wheel chairs, and others may even be old grandmothers. These people live next door, around the corner, and even upstairs from us, and we have no idea about the evil that lye's within them. 

When I was about seven years old I lived across the street from this extremely nice man named Dave. I would see him just about everyday, and he would smile and wave to my brother and I as we were walking to or from the corner store, and the bus stop during the week. He drove a decent car, he owned his own home, he had a wife, kids, and he was always so polite. Sometime later my mom and dad packed up and moved us to a different town, and I never saw him again, until the day my mom and my sister came to pick me up for our weekly girls day out. 

On this particular Saturday, We did our normal shopping, and went out to eat, but before we found our way home, we made a quick stop to the white house that occupied my view from my childhood playroom. I heard them mention that we were going to go up and see Dave, but what I was about to find out would change my entire prospective about ordinary looking people. 

When we got to the steps Dave greeted us at the door with that same warming smile that he would give us twelve years ago. He walked us all the way up the stairs to the attic, and pointed us in the direction that we were to sit in. When I looked around, to my surprise, I saw all types of candles, spirits in a bottle (liquor), and all types of objects to accompany those things. Based upon what I was seeing, and the things that he was saying, I connected the dots, and discovered that he was a witch doctor, and an elite one at that. 

I never forgot about that day, but it wasn't until God made things more clear to me, then I was able to form an understanding about the evil people do behind closed doors. And not only did I learn from the situation stated above, but I also learned that its not just the people that live near by, but the ones that we're related to, and the ones that birthed us. We have no idea about the unseen things that they have done, and it can only take the power of God to reveal to us these diabolical, and unorthodox rituals that they performed, and deliver us and set us free from them. 

So the next time you see someone and you think they're normal, just remember that you have slightest idea about the evil that goes on upstairs.

Wednesday, March 18, 2015

Rotten To The Core

By Angela Cox

I used to associate the phrase "Rotten to the Core" with a baby that's spoiled, and has the world wrapped around it's little fingers. You know the kind that will scream at the top of their lungs and throw a  fit the moment you put them down, or pry someone else's belongings from their hands? Not once did I think to compare the word "rotten" to an adult that knows right from wrong. 

Adults that are "rotten to the core" remind me of bad apples. When you think of a bad apple, what comes to mind? The appearance of it alone is distasteful and disgusting, only worthy of being thrown in the garbage. Think of a rotten apple mixed with a bowl of fresh fruit. Eventually, the rotten apple will taint the others, and cause them to rot away, therefore, it should be separated from the rest and disposed of.

It's the same way with people that allow evil to get the best of them. Especially those that thrive on tearing others down, that seek gratification in dividing relationships, and influencing others to turn on each other. They operate from the realm of immaturity and wicked behavior, simple because they're unhappy with their own life. Usually "bad fruit" doesn't fall far from the "tree", because they're either right in our family tree or closely related to us, like "in laws", or so called friends.

They're the kind that we need to dispose of (separate ourselves from)and love them from a distance because the venom from their mouth is as deadly as an atomic bomb that destroys everything in it's path, and no one is safe! Their victims are usually easy prey, like the young and innocent, the weak minded, or those that they're very familiar with like sister's, brother's, mother's, fathers and so on. You know, the ones that can easily cause you to have feelings of shame, or send you on a guilt trip?

Unfortunately because they're close to us, we allow them to stick around, not knowing that the longer they're in our presence or immediate circle, the more damage they incur. They're the culprits that commit heinous crimes like turning children against their own parents, or bringing division in the marriages of their sons or daughters. They're the kind that try to destroy someones reputation before they even get a fair chance for other people to get to know them. They're the kind that take things that don't belong to them, and they'll feel justified because you're related to them. Some even feel like they can disrespect you, and you're suppose to just "get over it" because you're family or close to the family. What's even worse is that they teach other's that are easily influenced to do the same.

At the root of their behavior is envy and jealousy, that drives them to dislike you and attempt to cause you harm. It shows that they're not complete or content within, and that they don't have "a life" or better yet "the life" that comes from having a relationship with God, where peace, love and contentment resides. 

So how do you deal with those that are rotten to the core? Keep in mind that some people have no desire to change at all, but would rather influence and change you! They'd rather manipulate a situation to suit their own evil and selfish desires. Sometimes in order to change, we have to change the traditions we've learned among our family and immediate peer groups.  Especially the traditions that we've become accustomed to that condones wrong doing from those related to us. 

Realize that evil is evil, regardless of where it comes from. In order for you to thrive, sometimes it calls for you to "put your foot down" by telling "bad apples" the truth, an draw the line by separation and distance. 

Remember this: Do not set foot on the path of the wicked or walk in the way of evil men. Avoid it, do not travel on it, turn from it and go on your way, for the cannot sleep till they do evil, they are robbed of slumber till they make someone fall. (Proverbs 4:14-16)

Tuesday, March 17, 2015

Called Out Of Darkness

By Karen Ricketts 

Shame, guilt, fear and pain to bear
Reaped from what this world had to share   

Desires of the flesh and mind led the way
A path further into darkness deeper in decay

Only the hand of God did save
Christ His son already sent for redemption sake 

Made alive saved by his grace
Holding tight to his promise opting out of the "rat race"

Longing to be redressed in his image by seeking his face
Called Out of Darkness

And into His marvelous Light
What made me worthy?

Nothing - it was by his rich grace and mercy
How magnificent a love this must be

That he truly died for someone like me
His precious blood my sins will cleanse

By faith if I just believe he called me friend 

Monday, March 16, 2015

The Unexpected

By Patricia McKinney

I never imagined that I'd be where I am today. In all my years, I never dreamed that I'd embark on a journey that seemed so far fetched had it been 20 years ago. Yet there's still much to be discovered, and the unexpected awaits me. It's like the thrill of a roller coaster ride that takes you by surprise with every spontaneous twist and turn. You never know what lies ahead until you get there. There's beauty and freedom in letting go of your own limited ideas, assumptions, and what you think you're capable of. Quite honestly, you really don't know what you can do until you've tried. It's amazing when God begins to show you that you're so much more than your own mind can grasp, especially if you've endured suffering and traumatic experiences for the majority of your lifetime like I have. (Read about the CEO & President on www.womenintran.org )

I've discovered that suffering for long periods of time, whether it be from abuse, disappointments, set backs, failed ventures (of any kind) can place a shadow of doubt in front of you, that can deter you from even the slightest thought of personal success. If you're not careful, you can find yourself filled with thoughts that you're unworthy or incapable of accomplishing anything greater than what your past experience had to offer. As a result, you can allow these things to paralyze you with fear, and limit you from the unexpected blessings that may lye right before you. In times like these, you need all of the determination, and encouragement that you can get, but a the same time, it's important to do an self assessment. Sometime the answers to many of our questions lye in our own lap.

You really have to stop and think. Sometime we fail, because we're in competition with someone else, but then we wonder why we're not experiencing the fullness that God has to offer. Well, there you have it. If you're trying to do something that's not designed specifically for you, of course it won't work, (or at least not for long). We can be suffering and hindering ourselves by trying to define ourselves through the eyes of someone else or by "trying to fill someone else's shoes" (copying what someone else is doing). Fear is also another factor. It's a dream killer that's partnered with doubt, and self defeating prophesies. Fear is tied to strong emotions that feel very real, and it works in close relation to the assumption that you already know the outcome before you've tried. It's filled with words like, can't, won't, don't, never, meaning I can't do that, or that can't happen. It won't work, they'll never do that. We set ourselves up for failure, and set catastrophe in place before anything good can happen. I've discovered that you can become accustomed to doing something negative for so long that it becomes like second nature. It takes God to help break the habit, and it takes you to put forth the effort by taking risks and stepping out of what you know, and are accustomed too. Also, place yourself around productive positive people that overcame obstacles. They can introduce you to something new, to help shift that pattern of thinking, and expose you to something different.

I thank God that he gave me determination, but I also take steps to ensure my drive, and keep my momentum. Because I didn't give up and allow past experiences and set backs to define my future, I'm finding myself in ballrooms, among foreign dignitaries, celebrities and athletes, meeting new people, experiencing wonderful relationships, and most of all finding fulfillment and a peace of mind. I'm taking a ride where I've never gone before. Even though everyone's life is patterned for a different journey, and no two are alike, you never know what lies ahead. Remember unexpected blessings come in different forms, and God has His own unexpected blessings for those who acknowledge him and seek His will for their life, and there's no partiality with Him.

Sunday, March 15, 2015


On last Thursday I attended The Harlem News Annual Networking and Photo-shoot Event.. We are up in here, Black Women In Business... I Stick out in all my white with Tanya Pack sitting right behind me♥

Friday, March 13, 2015

The Beauty Of Adventures

By Keesah Pelzer

Everyday is filled with new possibilities as long as you're open to receive them, and while venturing out into the unknown may be a little frightening, it also can be very exciting. I'm one of many who loves to meet new people, and I'm willing to give things a try even if I already feel as though I'm not going to like it, but that's the beauty of adventures! 

When you're scared to step out, and do things you've never done before, it can hinder all the possibilities of what's to come. In God, there is so much to learn, and so many things to do (when the time comes) but most of us never get there because we surround ourselves with the same group of people sticking to the, "never forget where you came from" mentality. 

Those imaginary rules were designed to keep everyone at eye level. Do you think birds say they can't go too high or too far out because they have to remember the nest they came from? No way! Once they leave the nest that they were birthed in, they fly without restraints, and that's how we should be.

You see, it's not about forgetting where you came from, but more so about wanting to explore new channels, and there's nothing wrong with that!

Thursday, March 12, 2015

The Beauty & Spirit Extravanganza Fundrasier for Women In Transition April 24th 2015

                  CEO Patricia McKinney Women In Transition Featuring Owner Tanya Pack Blink Fancy.
visit my website at www.womenintran.org

The Race

By Karen Ricketts

A Glorious end promised to the finishers
An extra-ordinary race this is

A race unlike any other you've experienced
This is a race of endurance

Not a sprint or even the long distance
More like a marathon in unfamiliar terrain

It's not for the swift but for who can endure
Watering stations are miles and miles apart

No cheering crowds here, but an encouraging word along the way 
Driven you have to be with the strength of God to carry you through

Many casualties along the way
Runners get weary and tired

Others change their mind
Still others are overcome by injury

This race is a race for Life & Life with Christ
The most difficult race of our lives 

But only those who endure till the end
Receive the Glorious gift of Salvation