Women In Transition...Where Change Begins

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Friday, November 28, 2014

Mental Slavery...

By Karen Ricketts

"The cycle of mental poverty is what keeps generations of individuals going around in the same circles, thinking, reacting and doing the same things because the mind is still in chains being controlled by the unknown, and because we can't recognize it, we fall prey to it time and time again. It takes willingness and the hand of God to open our eyes to see the different ways that we're being held back through mental slavery and programmed thinking."

Thursday, November 27, 2014

Cat Fights And Foolishness

By Angela Cox


We've all heard of how we women can be "Catty". In other words, cattiness refers to being territorial, controlling, complainers, that knit pick over the most menial, insignificant things that really don't matter. It refers to being lovers of drama, more than lovers of peace. Another form of "Catty behavior" is similar to a cat that purrs around a bowl of milk, and refers to something that a cat is attracted to or desires. It's identical to a woman that tries to get close to one of her female counterparts because she's coveting what she has, be it goods, clothes, status, information, or their man.

I used to think that the word "Cattiness" when referring to women was seasoned with criticism, tapered off with a bit of exaggeration, and a word used to bash the female species, or used in a stereotypical form.  Even though I knew there were many truths to it, I didn't think that most of the female species was guilty of doing "the cat walk" and refusing to change.

It wasn't until I was placed right in the center of many female counterparts that the word "Cattiness" came to life.  I recently became a part of a women's program that's used as a short term vehicle to help propel women to accomplish their personal goals, be it education, housing, employment, etc. This particular program is very fast paced, and everyone is given an allotted amount of time, or less than a "boot camps" time span of about 2 months to accomplish certain goals. Which means that every minute is crucial, and it's vital that time is used wisely. 

Upon my entry into this program, I assumed that every participant would be focused with tunnel vision in a rush to complete their task because they only have 2 months to do so.  Boy was I wrong.  Even though all women were between the ages of 25 and older (most in the 40's and beyond) I thought they'd know better and conduct themselves in a fairly mature manner. However, I found within this short timeframe, that the majority had already lost focus before they got started. They formed cliques, and spent vast amounts of time complaining about each other, backstabbing, backbiting, meddling in other's matters. Some were very opinionated, giving advise without practicing it themselves, attempting to clean up someone else's backyard instead of their own,  plotting, scheming, and stealing. Others operated out of a superiority/inferiority complex, being full of pride and boastful, looking down their noses at others eventhough they were "in the same boat" (same predicament). Some were cold hearted, inconsiderate, and the words "personal space" was like speaking a foreign language.

I found through my own experience that most women are emotionally driven, (of which I've been guilty among many other things described here) and there are very few that are seasoned, mature, and emotionally consistant.  Immaturity doesn't discriminate because of age (remember everyone here is close to thirty and way over!) I learned that you can't dwell among others and see their flaws without looking in the mirror and seeing your own.  That the very things that can be a "turn off" are to be looked at closely to make sure your not guilty of doing the same.  

In my case, this experience helps me to be conscious of my own character, and see clearly that you can't change the cattiness or character of those around you, but you can change "you".  This taught me to keep "wisdom" in view.  Like King Solomon  said, it's better too dwell in the corner of a house top than with a contentious and angry woman, which says that no one wants to be around "cattiness" for long (or at all), and a woman can bring on her own self ruin by operating out of it

Wednesday, November 26, 2014

The Unexpected...

By Patricia McKinney

I never imagined that I'd be where I am today. In all my years, I never dreamed that I'd embark on a journey that seemed so far fetched had it been 20 years ago. Yet there's still much to be discovered, and the unexpected awaits me. It's like the thrill of a roller coaster ride that takes you by surprise with every spontaneous twist and turn. You never know what lies ahead until you get there. There's beauty and freedom in letting go of your own limited ideas, assumptions, and what you think you're capable of. Quite honestly, you really don't know what you can do until you've tried. It's amazing when God begins to show you that you're so much more than your own mind can grasp, especially if you've endured suffering and traumatic experiences for the majority of your lifetime like I have.

Tuesday, November 25, 2014

I'm Not That Kind Of Person

By Keesah Pelzer



If I had a dollar for every time I heard someone say, "I'm not that kind of person", I'd be rich! Sometimes we think others are good people, or cool enough to let in our circle because, we've known them for a while, or they appear to be genuine, but once we let them in, and allow them to get too familiar with us, we start to see their true colors, and they show us that they are indeed, who they said they weren't.

Reflect back to all the people you came in contact with that won your trust. They came with a warm smile, barring gifts, and trustworthy conversations and after they got comfortable, and got to the point where they believed they had you figured out, they went right in for the kill, and betrayed you.

We often think its the people that we don't immediately click with, or the people that come off in a way that makes us believe they cant be trusted, that are the ones who are a threat to us, but from my own personal experiences, I've found that yes, we should always follow our instincts, but its really the people that we connect with almost instantly who butter us up, causing us to let down our guards, and do us dirty.

Its like someone coming to your house and knocking on your door with a ski mask on, dressed in all black. Are you going to let that person in? No way! Because they look suspicious, but if a little kid comes to your door trying to sell candy for a fundraiser, you'd be more prone to opening the door and letting them in because they seem as harmless as a dove.

We have to have the mentality of "guilty until proven innocent ",so that we can guard our hearts, because its nothing like allowing someone in, up close and personal in your life, and they turn around and stab you in the heart. I had my share of those episodes, and quite honestly, I've been on both sides of the field where I've told someone that I wasn't like that, and that I would never do such a thing, but as time went on I did just that, making the words that I vowed to them out to be a lie.

The bottom line is that it doesn't matter if a person claims to be a follower of Jesus Christ, or a worshiper of Satan himself, we should never be oblivious to the dagger behind anyone's smile. And always remember, you may know a person by name, but you don't know what's in their hearts, nor the damage that they're capable of doing.

Monday, November 24, 2014

Ladies Night Out..



 
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Sunday, November 23, 2014

The Master's Table 2014







                                                                       
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Friday, November 21, 2014

Remember

By Karen Ricketts

Remember when grown ups were respected
And the older generation revered and protected

When strangers acted like friends
Lending a helping hand every now and then

Remember when it was safe for children
Their innocence guarded by those who cared for them

When you thought your job was secure
A pink slip you never imagined at your door

Remember when Faith and Hope abound
In God whose protection was all around

When Jesus was welcomed in our lives
And not a controversy for public strife

Remember the Good News of the Gospel in Christ
Being in Him is the only way to survive

Thursday, November 20, 2014

"Stop Lying Miss Jackson"

By Patricia McKinney & Angela Cox


I know you're wondering, who in the world is Miss Jackson?  Miss Jackson represents a type of woman that deceives herself by claiming that it's "okay" for her man to sleep around with other women while she's in a relationship with him. (Pump the brakes! Oh Please!)   


Let's be candid about the situation, women were designed by nature to be emotional beings, and they tend to be more affectionate than men.  Men unlike woman, express themselves differently, they are more aggressive and logical, and are not tied to their emotions or are as emotionally driven as women.  For example, a man can have sex with a woman but have no emotional strings attached to her.  Meaning after he's spent the night with you, and  whispered in your ear and made you feel like the woman of the year, he can walk right passed you the next day like he doesn't know you, like a stranger in the night. A married man can have extra-marital affairs but will not be emotionally tied to his mistress/es even if they are in a long term relationship outside of the marriage. He's not going to treat her like he treats the wife and he will not leave his wife for the mistress because his heart is still at home.  Regardless of what a woman looks like, how good she can cook, or how good the sex is, don't deceive yourself, he's not going to fall in love with you and leave what he has.  On many occasions, men have divorced or broken up from a long term relationship and started with someone new, but they would creep back to their former lover because their heart is still there. It's very difficult for a woman to compete with a man's former lover if his heart is still with her. You're wasting your time and settling for less by being with him. 


Many influential men especially in the entertainment and sports industry have much to contend with when it comes to the temptation that's always prevalent from the floods of beautiful women throwing themselves at them day and night. When woman see these men, all they can see is fame, the glamorous life, and dollar signs. Regardless to the fact that the man may be married or in a relationship, they could care less. They get tunnel vision, and all they see is him, and then the thrill of the chase is on. Once a women has conquered and captured her prey she'll do anything to keep him, even if it means deceiving herself and condoning infidelity in the relationship, as long as she has somebody!  Many women that have affairs or relationships with influential men  pretend that they "don't care" or "they understand" when their man creeps back with a former lover.  All I have to say to this is "STOP LYING MISS JACKSON" you know your mad about it! You just want to keep the money flowing in, and play the trophy on the side of him because without him you don't have anything! That's right, being with him makes you feel like your someone of importance, because without him you don't feel 100% confident about yourself. Stop and be real with yourself for a brief moment, be mature about the situation and realistic.  If you condone and say it's "okay, or say that "I understand" when this man is cheating, your setting yourself up for heartache, and you'll run the high risk of other types of disrespect.  

Even if the both of you are cheating on each other, eventually you will lose because of your makeup and design. Your emotions can work against you. Women were created to be emotional and we can't sleep with a man for too long without becoming emotionally attached. No woman is ever really okay with a man cheating on her, even if she's says she is. Women don't think logically when they get involved with a man of influence. They set themselves up for major disrespect and embarrassment especially if they're in the public eye, and will make themselves look like fools in the long run. 

Wednesday, November 19, 2014

How Do You Know When Your Time Has Come & Gone?

By Patricia McKinney


Nature gives us signs to show us when seasons are changing.  The leaves change color and fall away, the temperature changes from warm summer days to cool fall nights, and the days are shortened.  People are just like the four seasons that come around every year. They're supposed to move according to the seasons of life, but they refuse to change with the time, and prefer to hold onto yesterday, hoping for the same results. They look for the same euphoric feeling when their name rang out on stage, and record sales were off the charts, when business was booming, and they were at liberty to shop themselves into oblivion.  They desire to stay in the same youthful place of yester-year, with the same experience that brought them joy, acceptance, and a sense of well being. So they'll hold onto the same set of friends, hang out a the same place, and do the same thing. They haven't grasped the fact that nothing last forever.  If life were meant to live in the same experience, than it would be quite boring, and we'd all have a one tracked mind.
Imagine someone wearing a tank top, shorts and sandles in 10 degree weather, not only would they end up sick, but everyone around them would think they've lost their mind. Common sense would tell them that summer is over, but they refuse to let it go, even  if it costs them their health, and they end up on the brink of pneumonia, they're still going outside in shorts. 
This is the way people think, "in delusions of grandeur", meaning they think they're greater than what they really are. Therefore, they find it hard to let go of recognition, a position, memories, and their glory days when every one chanted their name, and gave them a standing ovation. To be delusional means that you see signs things that are contrary to your own belief, but you ignore them. You tell yourself, I was able to make it happen before, so I can still make it happen now, even though twenty years has passed, your body has changed, and you're not as fast as you used to be.  That's like trying to defy the laws of gravity.  You know the old saying, "what goes up, must come down". People act as if they can defy the laws of gravity, and even turn back the hands of time. They fail to realize that with time, comes a new generation of people that have bigger and better ideas, as well as expectations.  They're constantly evolving. 
Take a close look at babies that were born in the 1980's, and compare them to those born now (2014).   They're extremely advanced and alert, like old souls living in a child's body.  Our new culture presents a vast difference in style, their personality, ideas, and their belief system.  Even the issues they face are more intense than the 70's & 80's baby.  What use to work for you and your grandmother, won't work for them.  They're not shining anyone's shoes, cleaning anyone's house, and you're lucky if they take out the garbage, or do the dishes.
This new generation has the whole world at their finger tips (the internet). If there's anything they want to know or see, all they have to do is Google it! The only way to attract them or have any type of influence on this generation at all, is if you're current and can identify with their needs. If you can take their attention away from the latest video game, or the hottest fashion, even for the slightest moment, than you're doing good. 
So if your an older person that's outdated, and unaware of the issues revolving around this new era, than you don't stand a chance.  This new generation will surely provide you with a cue that your not making any impact if you're irrelevant. So how do you know if your season has come and gone?  Here's some helpful hints:
If you find that your ratings have gone down over the airwaves, and you're not selling cd's like you used too, or the fashion industry has changed, and no ones complimenting or buying anything that you've created, if you're a jewelry store owner, and the same diamonds (or cubic zirconia's) are sitting in the same place that they were last year, and if you're a big shot, that used to have influence in the community, but you find that you can no longer move the crowd or draw an "ant" to one of your meetings, that's a sure sign that your  time to shine has come and gone. Like the old blues singer BB King once sang, "the thrill is gone".(That's my point exactly).
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to figure it out.  Sometimes people would rather hold on to fiction and dismiss the facts. That doesn't mean your life if over, it just means it's time to pass the baton to a newer, more fast paced, innovative generation of people that are moving with the time. It means it time to give someone else your "know how", instead of hoarding it to your own hurt.  That means it's time to hold onto you're dignity while you still have a chance, and save face, instead of putting yourself out there to look like a fool where you no longer fit in.  It's time to save your money, or put to use where it will benefit instead of holding onto a business that's lots its popularity.

Tuesday, November 18, 2014

The Glory Stays

By Keesah Pelzer


Have you ever been in a relationship where the other party you were dating would buy you all types of gifts, but when the relationship was over, everything that they purchased (in the name of love), they suddenly wanted it back? The jewelry, the phone, the car, and yes, even the house keys. Not for nothing, but that's exactly what happens when we about-face, and march right out of the presence of the Lord.


For some strange reason, we tend to think that when we turn our backs on God, that everything he blessed us with, stays with us. We want to keep the peace that He has given us, the purity, the relevance, and most importantly, the glory, but needless to say, all of those things return back to its rightful owner. When God blesses us with both spiritual, and tangible things, it's a known fact that upon leaving his presence, those things we no longer have access to, leaving us in a worse off condition than we were in when He first accepted us with open arms.


A lot of the time, we as humans cannot comprehend how the Lord does business, but its much like signing a prenuptial agreement before you inter into marriage, (but verbally), so if for any given reason we decide to up and leave, He has the right to protect His assets. In other words we leave with what we came with, which is more than likely a slue of issues, and the clothes on our backs. Rather we want to admit it or not, The Lord gives and the Lord takes away, and divorcing Him would be against our better judgment, not just because He gives us things, but because what he gives can only be attained through His Holy Spirit. You can't buy peace and joy, and you can't fake the anointing. If that was case, He wouldn't be God, because He has already warned us of what would happen if we decided to go astray.


God doesn't just hand out His glory to anyone, but when he grants us those rights and we walk away from Him knowing the consequences, he will take everything that we worked so hard to get and allow someone else to enjoy the fruit of our labor... at our own expense.  So that way its an even exchange, and you're free to leave, but the glory stays.

Monday, November 17, 2014

Don't Repay Evil For Evil

By Patricia McKinney

Spending valuable time seeking revenge takes away from your own quality of life, and it gives your enemy power over you, because they're able to push your emotional buttons and pull you like a puppet on a string.  Have you ever thought to stop and evaluate what your enemy was actually doing and why they were doing it?  Could it be because they're filled with inner hatred, or they want you to stoop to their level because of what you have, or the fact that you've surpassed them in area's of their life so they want to cause distractions to hinder you from moving forward? Are they pushing buttons to see what's actually in you so they can ruin your reputation? Sometimes they want to prove that you are just as evil as they are and seek to get a reaction from you so they can say that you're not worth two cent!
Sometimes it's best for you to take your hands off of certain situations all together before you find that you've gotten yourself in way too deep.  There's millions of people incarcerated that wished they could turn back the hands of time, and now their "would have, should have's, and could have's" don't mean a thing.
I've learned from experience that if you take time to seek God for his helping hand in a bad situation that he will give you the strength to keep you from getting yourself in trouble, and hold you back from making a mess.  He'll give you peace and power over your enemies, while he'll cause them to reap what they've sown in time, then you can continue to move on with your life while operating out of maturity and love instead of evil.

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Come Meet and Greet...



  CEO Patricia McKinney
and
    Women In Transition Board Members
 Stamford Ct. Location
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Friday, November 14, 2014

Deception

By Karen Ricketts


Deception came to man-kind in Paradise
Thrown down from heaven he got us tossed out
For he brought woe and a desire to reign
With mankind his sentence remain


Deception came again after the flood
Unrighteousness abound in ancient towns 
Spawning off-springs to served and worship him
But the blood of Jesus has already defeated him


Deception is worshiped as truth written down as history
Inter-twined with the Word and children of God
It pumps through the veins of mankind
But God sits on His throne and will always get the Glory


Deception is the father of lies
Cloaked in religion politics non-profits and big business
He hides in plain sight
It don't discriminate every soul is at stake 


Deception is in your face everyday
A boldness and haughtiness it will not hide
Leading many away from the truth of Christ
Pray y'all for the Lord to open your eyes


The infiltration is mind-boggling
For material gain bloodshed is its name
I will give you all these kingdoms it says
And many have replied yes

Thursday, November 13, 2014

A Foreign Language

By Keesah Pelzer


Finding someone that you can genuinely relate to can be like looking for a needle in a haystack... seemingly impossible. Of course there's always the ones who like the same songs, same colors, and same foods as we do, but to come across someone who has shared the same struggles, trials, and set backs, and overcame them successfully, is what I would call a "rarity".

What I've learned through the years is that people tend to take to you more when you speak their language. Language, meaning the roads you've traveled in life, where you've been, and what you've gone through. My spiritual mom is a prime example of the type of person I'm pertaining to. She's been through a lot of things in life that many of us would have never made it out of alive, and if we did, our minds would be so far gone. She's been raped, molested, abused, on drugs and everything else that you can think of, so when she gives her testimony, she speaks to the core of one's innermost being, and people can visually see that she's a conqueror. For that reason, they are immediately drawn to her, because she speaks their language, she knows the struggles and that it takes the spirit of God to make it out.

When we find that we're not the only one's who have been faced with an elusive amount of hurt, pain and embarrassment, there's a sense of relief that we get, because there's nothing worse than being in a foreign place (a place in life that's unrecognizable) with no one there that understands you or can relate to what it is that you're going through. When you've been through the unimaginable, its kind of like speaking a different language, especially to the people who have zero experience in those areas, they can't identify, and even if they do seem to have a little bit of the lingo down pat, it's not spoken fluently.

Sometimes all it takes is for the right person to come and shed light on the things that seem to plague us, a person that has been there, done that, and seen it all. Someone who is compassionate, and has the heart of God. Someone who speaks our foreign language.

Wednesday, November 12, 2014

Women In Transition & The Bishop's Korner


 
       Women In Transition & The Bishop's Korner Headed to The Bronx N.Y
 
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